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作者: vchan1 時間: 12-9-23 00:10 標題: 家姐讀國際，細佬讀本地學校有問題嗎？

Hi, I'm a dad of 2 kids and my current ideal plan is to send my elder daughter (almost 3y) to Victoria primary/secondary and younger son (1.5y) to St. Joseph's in the future, as I'm its old boy. But I do have 2 concerns which I'm not sure of:

1) Obviously St Joe will have much more homework than Victoria, do you think my boy will envy his sister for not having much work to do? And it's not quite balanced that my daughter will have much more free time while her brother is always busy on his homework (I guess)!

2) Similar to the above point, i.e. my son will envy his sister studying in a more 'classy' school and thinks we love her more?

Appreciate it very much if you could share your view!!!

Cheers,
vchan1

作者: mrshoho 時間: 12-9-23 01:19 標題: 回覆：家姐讀國際，細佬讀本地學校有問題嗎？

I would be happy if I am your daughter, but upset to be your son. St Jo has more tests and exams. Poor boy needs to study all the time while he sees his sis gets to "learn thru play".

作者: reneeleung 時間: 12-9-23 11:46

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作者: sschiu 時間: 12-9-23 12:00 標題: 回覆：家姐讀國際，細佬讀本地學校有問題嗎？

I can share a bit here since my elder son is in CKY but my younger daughter is in a traditional Catholic girl's school. It has been challenging to explain to my daughter why her brother has less work and less pressure, and why we had not put her in the same school. On the other hand, my son has been asking why his school is so expensive but his sister's school is "free of charge"! You have to think carefully how to answer these questions before you make this decision! I believe every family will have different answers! Our approach is telling them why their schools are good and suitable for them. Moreover, I have added work to my son so that they are more equal, for example, revising dictation at home with both of them together (though it may be too easy for my son). For my daughter, I will "let her go" easier and not pushing her too hard. Not easy to keep a balance!

Another point you may have to consider is that if you put them into such different schools, you as parents have to learn to support your kids in two different systems with very different requirements! It is not easy for you too and you may have to take double efforts.

作者: vchan1 時間: 12-9-23 12:00

reneeleung 發表於 12-9-23 11:46
我都有想過這個問題. 因為我大仔比較適合LS. 但我真係覺得到時大仔會覺得我唔鍾意佢, 或者佢唔係我親生:too ...

咁最後点安排呢？

作者: sschiu 時間: 12-9-23 12:02 標題: 回覆：vchan1 的帖子

I can share a bit here since my elder son is in CKY but my younger daughter is in a traditional Catholic girl's school. It has been challenging to explain to my daughter why her brother has less work and less pressure, and why we had not put her in the same school. On the other hand, my son has been asking why his school is so expensive but his sister's school is "free of charge"! You have to think carefully how to answer these questions before you make this decision! I believe every family will have different answers! Our approach is telling them why their schools are good and suitable for them. Moreover, I have added work to my son so that they are more equal, for example, revising dictation at home with both of them together (though it may be too easy for my son). For my daughter, I will "let her go" easier and not pushing her too hard. Not easy to keep a balance!

Another point you may have to consider is that if you put them into such different schools, you as parents have to learn to support your kids in two different systems with very different requirements! It is not easy for you too and you may have to take double efforts.

作者: Jane1983 時間: 12-9-23 13:50

我朋友大女讀名小，細仔讀IS。大女好中意讀書，勤力好勝，好適合。細仔是好純的開心快樂人，吳係搏個種，亦讀得開心。細仔好look up to家姐，so far相安無事，都幾好。

安排好吳好，好睇小朋友性格、父母點解釋，搵一間適合小朋友的學校係最緊要。

作者: nintendo 時間: 12-9-23 14:14

Jane1983 發表於 12-9-23 13:50
安排好吳好，好睇小朋友性格、父母點解釋，搵一間適合小朋友的學校係最緊要。

全中
如果真係要計，邊個件衫貴 d 又要計，邊個食多一碗飯又要計
真係計一定計唔掂
最緊要係，如果家長知小朋友係咁 sensitive，基本很多決定都要小心同佢解釋
小朋友要知，父母出發點都係在有限資源下，給他們最合適的教育

作者: FattyDaddy 時間: 12-9-23 14:34

Jane1983 發表於 12-9-23 13:50
我朋友大女讀名小，細仔讀IS。大女好中意讀書，勤力好勝，好適合。細仔是好純的開心快樂人，吳係搏個種，亦 ...

While it is true that children have different characters, I'm not sure if those characters are in the genes, that one is born to be so.

I subscribe to the idea that one's character depends more on nurture than nature. A child is just a like lump of malleable play-dough and it is the school that forms the child, more than the child being rigid and has to choose a particular type of school to fit.

So in the example you mentioned, may be 中意讀書 and 開心快樂人 are the RESULTS of going to different schools.

作者: Jane1983 時間: 12-9-23 14:46

吳係純nurture。我成世人親眼見過兩個好中意做功課的小朋友，有功課做開心過玩玩具同睇電視。一個係我家姐，一個係我小朋友，我自己從來吳係咁，相隔咁多年，再見都好震撼。

作者: hellokids 時間: 12-9-23 20:19

回復 FattyDaddy 的帖子

Agree w Fattydaddy that environment may change one's character & attitude in a certain degree!

作者: reneeleung 時間: 12-9-23 23:11

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作者: vchan1 時間: 12-9-23 23:49

sschiu 發表於 12-9-23 12:00
I can share a bit here since my elder son is in CKY but my younger daughter is in a traditional Cath ...

Thank you so much for your sharing sschiu!!

May I ask when did your daughter start asking this kind of questions (her bro has less work...)? And did she really accept your explanations?

By the way, my daughter is very energetic and not that easy to focus on something for more than 5-10 mins, so we are worried that IS/Victoria will not have good control/training on her discipline... do you think our concern is valid?

Thanks!!

作者: Kareese 時間: 12-9-23 23:54

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作者: vchan1 時間: 12-9-24 00:48 標題: 回覆：Kareese 的帖子

乜唔係 IB 就算係國際學校咩？

作者: terryhau 時間: 12-9-24 07:22 標題: 回覆：vchan1 的帖子

yes...Victoria is not IS

作者: Mokilily 時間: 12-9-24 08:53 標題: 回覆：vchan1 的帖子

Definitely.

作者: Glossimar 時間: 12-9-24 09:54 標題: 回覆：家姐讀國際，細佬讀本地學校有問題嗎？

DBS (男拔)同St Paul Co-ed (聖保羅男女)都係IB課程，佢地都唔係國際學校囉

作者: vchan1 時間: 12-9-24 11:53

OK, I should change the subject to "家姐讀VSA，細佬讀本地傳統學校有問題嗎？"

作者: sschiu 時間: 12-9-24 13:36 標題: 回覆：vchan1 的帖子

My daughter started to ask such questions since P1. Didn't take much time for her to notice the difference. I can't say she has "accepted" the explanations but she likes her school and tries to work hard on her work. I think she does not compare so much as before!

I think IS/Victoria will have higher tolerance or strategies for active or unstable children. It is not a matter of "discipline" (this is the view of traditional LS, sadly) but the teachers may need special care for the child. In some cases specialist assessment may be necessary.

作者: type409 時間: 12-9-24 14:40 標題: 回覆：vchan1 的帖子

To put it another way....even 2 different LS will have different workload.

As St joseph is a boy school, I guess it's relatively easy to explain to your kids since your daughter can't study there anyhow.

How about as a daddy you try to change the way how you judge this matter? Then they will eventually realize this is not an issue at all?

作者: bigbighei 時間: 12-9-24 18:57 標題: 引用：我都有想過這個問題.+因為我大仔比較適合LS

原帖由 reneeleung 於 12-09-23 發表
我都有想過這個問題. 因為我大仔比較適合LS. 但我真係覺得到時大仔會覺得我唔鍾意佢, 或者佢唔係我親生:too ...

我現在就要決定了！比唔比細既讀IS佢K2

作者: hkparent 時間: 12-9-24 22:36

If money is not a concern, go for IS. Why bother to stand the pressure of local school and get HK accent English if you can afford IS? If you are committed to the education of your kids, their destinations will be the same no matter they attend LS or IS - oversea univ or local univ via non-jupas.

作者: vchan1 時間: 12-9-24 22:50

Thanks a lot for your comment sschiu & type409!!

作者: vchan1 時間: 12-9-24 22:53

bigbighei 發表於 12-9-24 18:57
我現在就要決定了！比唔比細既讀IS佢K2

Do you mind sharing your case & concern? Thanks!

作者: Chole 時間: 12-9-25 13:21

My elder daughter used to study in LS and she has switched to an international school at secondary level. Younger brother is in LS. He loves his school and doesn't want to change at all. In fact I have no plan to do so, just all friends ask the same question over and over again.

I just tell the kids that they have different characters and different abilities. Perhaps because they are of different genders, my kids have no problem to accept my explanations.

作者: bigbighei 時間: 12-9-25 17:04 標題: 引用：Quote:bigbighei+發表於+12-9-24+18:57+我

原帖由 vchan1 於 12-09-24 發表
Do you mind sharing your case & concern? Thanks!

大仔讀緊RC 佢性格活潑好動到不得了，所以比佢讀IS 係好啱既決定，細佬／妹佢地係孖既，相對妹妹好動多諗頭都啱讀IS 但唯讀細佬，好靜，好容易習中專注所以我傾向佢讀全統學校，但每次去哥哥學校我都感覺果份學習既自由，快樂學習既珍貴，我都會重新去諗好唔好比埋細佬讀IS呢！我未決定！

作者: vchan1 時間: 12-9-27 19:56 標題: 回覆：bigbighei 的帖子

But if I were u I would keep the younger son in LS if he can handle it, since it's relatively easy to change from LS to IS, right?

作者: vchan1 時間: 12-9-27 19:58 標題: 引用：My+elder+daughter+used+to+study+in+LS+an

原帖由 Chole 於 12-09-25 發表
My elder daughter used to study in LS and she has switched to an international school at secondary l ...

Thanks a lot for sharing!

作者: hkparent 時間: 12-9-27 23:01

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It's relatively easy to switch from LS to a so so IS. But for good IS, you have to plan well ahead and compete for a place.

作者: Jane1983 時間: 12-9-27 23:05

LS轉IS都吳易，好睇學生實力同家庭質素。
不過近幾年都聽過有些名中的學生在高年班會轉去IS，又確實為到學校爭光（尤其係中文科）。

而家CIS的top boy都係初中時由St Paul Coed轉過去的。

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