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作者: kc1016 時間: 12-6-28 10:26 標題: 點算好?

個大仔快8歲, 仲鍾意玩公仔, 由細到大都唔玩超人和機械人, 鍾意玩數字ABC, 串字, 球類, 棋等, 甘大個仲成個BB甘, 又似女孩子甘, 畫圖畫又畫裙又畫心型. 點算好呀? 好驚呀?

作者: babybear 時間: 12-6-28 12:48 標題: 回覆：點算好?

係咪屋企有家姐？所以多玩公仔？

作者: jeffsir 時間: 12-6-28 12:59

你系怕巨的取向?

作者: JustAParent 時間: 12-6-28 19:29 標題: 回覆：點算好?

兒童心理學家指出，小部分高小學生（＜15%）對性別的認知仍不強烈，你到高小留意一下，會發現玩公仔，鍾愛Hello Kitty, 看少女卡通和喜歡和女生結伴的男孩。一般升中後，sex prototyping和gender socialization的影響會急速浮現，大部分小時女性化的男孩會突然Man起來（反之粗魯的女孩亦然）。

心理學課本基本都不太認同sex prototyping的必要性，歐洲甚至有小學刻意把性別模糊化，以減少gender socialization effect。但放眼現實，就不時聽到「女性化」中學男生被欺負，所以不少家長很刻意以環境甚至責罵迫小朋友盡早改變。諷刺的是，外國有調查訪問覺得受欺凌的女性化男孩，結果顯示施以欺凌首位，竟然是父母！

個人認為，男性不一定剛，女性也不一定要柔。只有男仔不「乸」得過份，還是任性而發吧。

作者: SY_Joanne 時間: 12-6-28 19:45 標題: 回覆：點算好?

我個仔今年 5歲，都好鍾意玩烹飯仔，又鐘意同女仔玩架！問佢點解，佢話啲男仔奀奀喎！？:;pppp:

作者: tws2010 時間: 12-6-28 20:52

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Shouldn't be a problem. My European colleagues told me they have to take needlework and cookery lessons when they were in secondary schools.

作者: cpcog 時間: 12-6-28 21:44

I don't think it is a problem. My daughter dislikes princess, Hello Kitty and all lovely characters! She loves dinosaurs, ghost, pokemon, monsters, cars .... She likes wearing clothes with skull, fire engine, fierce animals.. No laces, no ribbons, no hearts...
since kindergarten, she liked playing with boys more. Her best friend at school now is a boy too.
I think all children are unique so I never force her to like pink or become girlish. She can choose what she likes.

作者: kc1016 時間: 12-6-29 11:11

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甘你哋覺得要唔改變佢, 唔比公仔佢, 一定要去學男孩子的活動?

作者: cpcog 時間: 12-6-29 11:55

本帖最後由 cpcog 於 12-6-29 11:56 編輯

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I really haven't thought of pushing her to change. I respect and accept her choices. I always tell her that everyone would have different taste and choices.

I don't encourage her to play boy things actively. However, she would choose them by herself.
When she was a baby, she also chose to play cars and ball. So I know it is her character.

In fact, I can see more and more children would not just love the things that seems to be "suitable" for their gender nowadays.

When we buy clothes for her, I would suggest her to buy some girlish style (as I love such style for myself too) but she always rejects. Even if I buy them to her, she won't be willing to wear them.

So, if it is your son's own choice, let him! if you are really worried, you can try to put more boy stuffs near him and play with him.

作者: danielboy 時間: 12-6-29 12:13 標題: 回覆：點算好?

我仔仲大，成10歲喇，成個窗台都係佢個毛毛公仔動物園，但佢畫畫又無畫裙，亦鍾意玩槍、機械人、超人嗰d,所以我都唔理佢。

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