Some of you might know - Yesterday was the marching competition of road safety team students in HK & outlying islands.
My son (about 5) spent the afternoon with classmates & teachers from kindergartens for such competition in Aberdeen until 5pm.
After the competition and backing home, while I am holding his hand to cross the street, he said one funny thing.
“Daddy, you are a junk crosser.” He said with a smile. I guess he said with a little scare since I am quite mean to my son last yr (to control his behaviour) and I did obey the pedestrian crossing signal at that moment.
I looked at him with a shock and then turned to have a big big laugh.
“Yes, I am a junk crosser,” I said.
Actually, I really am and I would not lie on it nor find any excuse why I am a junk crosser. On the contrary, my son definitely obeyed the traffic signals, sometimes even reminds me to obey when I junk cross the street with him.
“Son, I am sorry. This is my mistake that I should make amendment. Please also do remind me to stop if I junk cross the street with you again.” I said.
“You are a junk crosser,” he said again with a big laugh with me together…
When talking about parenting no matter your kid is delayed or not, please remember this is a two way road. Parenting does not mean how you monitor your kid, but it is rather a team work. Each person’s role SHOULD NOT always be definite. Sometimes your kid is your tutor. My example shows that my son teaches me that junk crossing is a bad thing. I admit that I did such bad things before, not even at the moment I committed, but it is the truth. Pls don’t try to hide or find any excuse to cover your error in front of your kid. The most terrible things is of course ask your kid to stop or yelled at him. No one is infallible and no need to be ashamed.
Going back to parenting, if you really want your kid listening to what you said, the first thing is to listen to what your kid said DEEP DOWN FROM YOUR HEART. From my SUBJECTIVE observation, more than half of behavoural or emotional problems of a delayed kid came from improper parenting or schooling rather than their own deficiency. And again from my subjective observation, out of these improper parenting or schooling, the most most common problem is that WE PARENTS HAVE NOT LISTENED VERY CAREFULLY AND DEEP DOWN FROM OUR HEART TO WHAT YOUR KID IS SAYING…| 歡迎光臨 教育王國 (/) | Powered by Discuz! X1.5 |