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作者: Arkcocoon 時間: 11-11-2 10:37 標題: I'm confused...

It really is a very difficult period. Like all parents, I think my son is wonderful. He is sweet and charming, and learns things quickly. But then when I get all these reject letters I can't help but feel "is there something wrong with my son", "is there something else I should have done"?

Then again, look around us, can we really say that not getting into YW or DBS or SPCC means our son has a lesser future? Or rather, will getting into those schools really make our son better than others?

I am very confused.

作者: 無氣同你講 時間: 11-11-2 10:42

或者真係一山還有一山高, 又或者係神早已有安排。

作者: heitunglokyin 時間: 11-11-2 10:51

Your child is unique.  Getting into a good primary school only means that he "may" have a sophisticated education environment.  A good primary school does not guarantee a good secondary school education.  A good secondary school education does not guarantee a good tertiary education.  A good tertiary education does ot guarantee a good job.  A good job does not guarantee a good life.  For the ultimate goal of a good life, a parent's care and encouragement contribute much more importance.

I have a number of friends who graduated from top schools but a lot of them are too proud of such background.  It is so difficult for them to face failure.  Some of my friends were poor in school results.  However, they have been trained up as a confident person and they could find a happy life.

Pressure is something we have to face.  But please don't let such pressure to swallow your care and encouragement to your child.

作者: Arkcocoon 時間: 11-11-2 10:54

thank you heitunglokyin. you are absolutely right.

i am trying to think positive.

作者: Charlotte_mom 時間: 11-11-2 10:56

"sweet and charming, and learns things quickly" 唔等於考學校百戰百勝, 無辦法, 全天下父母都好緊張, 好多5歲人仔都十八般武藝什至特異功能, 有時我地就顯得"平凡"了

對自己個小朋友有信心, 個天會有最好既安排, 加油!

作者: lamone1 時間: 11-11-2 11:00

[quote]原帖由 heitunglokyin 於 11-11-2 10:51 發表

Thanks heitunglokyin! I also share the same feeling as 樓主. But when we always tell our child 'failure is the mother of success', now we can show to our kids how we deal with failure. I am trying to do so though with sadness.......

作者: ilj 時間: 11-11-2 11:04

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作者: redkoni 時間: 11-11-2 11:10

如果你說人生如賽跑, 大家都期望能夠做到贏在起跑線, 也無可厚非, 問題是你怎樣設定你的終點, 到底最好是: 最快跑到終點? 最遲跑到終點? 跑到終點時有最好的成就? 跑到終點時有最大的得著? 跑到終點時感到最快樂? 等等... 這才更值得深思. 小一的家長較為年青, 難免遇到挫折而感到confused, 但將來升中, 入大學, 出來社會做事, 生老病死等, confused何嘗不是一浪接一浪, 永遠都是後浪比前浪更大, 有明確的目標和積極的態度, confused自然會減少.

作者: Arkcocoon 時間: 11-11-2 11:10

oh dear ilj, i feel exactly the way you do... 可鄰天下父母

作者: 七點半 時間: 11-11-2 12:01

或者天意一早安排你會在派位方面有驚喜呢.....我們無辦法擔心咁多...要考的已經考了...要做的已經做了...小朋友的際遇是他們本身的命運, 我們做家長的只係扶持佢...relax...but + 等...= 忐忑不安....haha......都係果句...可憐天下父母心!!!!!!

原帖由 Arkcocoon 於 11-11-2 11:10 發表
oh dear ilj, i feel exactly the way you do... 可鄰天下父母

作者: Arkcocoon 時間: 11-11-2 12:04

thank you so much seven-thirty.

i also wanted to thank everyone on this forum. i am new here and lately this forum has given me a lot of comfort. it is so nice to be able to find all of you who are so willing to share. thank you!

作者: 七點半 時間: 11-11-2 12:08 標題: 回復 11# Arkcocoon 的帖子

大家都係家長...互相扶持下....

作者: gentlelam 時間: 11-11-2 13:32

100% agree.

作者: ilj 時間: 11-11-2 14:47

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作者: invitation 時間: 11-11-2 15:13 標題: 回復 13# gentlelam 的帖子

gentlelam, 你張相的男仔勁靚仔!

作者: WhiteBerry 時間: 11-11-2 15:47

Ackcocoon, 我都好有同感!

我覺得阿囡都算聰明，學嘢又快，記性又好，點解間間都係收reject letters，可能要train多D，出年6月再試

作者: ilj 時間: 11-11-2 15:52

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作者: 七點半 時間: 11-11-2 15:57 標題: 回復 16# WhiteBerry 的帖子

我曾經觀察過阿女...佢返屋企換了校服就立刻做功課...我回家之後佢又記得學校發生過什麼事...好多時我同佢講一些生活常識佢都記得...又多言..好似幾smart好明白事理...點知到我去觀課...先發現佢係學校變左另一個人...被動...發夢...不出聲...我問老師原來佢係學校係咁架...老師話係呀...佢唔會主動答問題或發問問題架...我再問阿女點解...佢只係問...唔識....我先發現一直高估左佢...當然我會不斷鼓勵佢主動一點...不過, 入到interview時都只有佢先知自己做過d咩...所以...我都不太寄望了!!!!

作者: WhiteBerry 時間: 11-11-2 15:58 標題: 回復 17# ilj 的帖子

報D面試班有無用呢?

作者: WhiteBerry 時間: 11-11-2 16:05

我都估阿囡唔夠主動、怕醜 (特別係陌生環境)，佢需要時間warm up，先發揮到狀態!

原帖由 七點半 於 11-11-2 15:57 發表
我曾經觀察過阿女...佢返屋企換了校服就立刻做功課...我回家之後佢又記得學校發生過什麼事...好多時我同佢講一些生活常識佢都記得...又多言..好似幾smart好明白事理...點知到我去觀課...先發現佢係學校變左另一個人. ...

作者: ngkwongtak 時間: 11-11-2 16:19

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作者: 無氣同你講 時間: 11-11-2 16:23

原帖由 ngkwongtak 於 11-11-2 08:19 發表
唉...衣d班, 好睇小朋友性格, 吳枝道都有上哂果d面試班架. 仲上哂三個階段添呀. 最終而家點吖? 次次去親interview都好似去咗奈何橋飲孟婆湯咁, 咩都唔記得哂, 果d禮儀呀, 聲線呀, 答問題既反應, 全部欠奉. 一如 ...

真係笑到想喊，笑中有淚......真係充滿苦澀味。

作者: ilj 時間: 11-11-2 16:26

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作者: WhiteBerry 時間: 11-11-2 16:27 標題: 回復 21# ngkwongtak 的帖子

哈哈哈! 咁可以點?

作者: GIPW 時間: 11-11-2 16:34

Recently an educator share a something with me that really ease my mind

When you are a kids, fighting for a school the school will view your general ability.  But when those kids grow up, they will become a common people as they are just general and no speciality.  But usually a person that could outsand from the crowd in the society is a specialist and this will not be easily discovered at young stage.
So just relax and stay cool.  Parents is the primary learning role model in primary stage and not the school.
Look at Steve Jobs, if he had a very smooth and planned education right from childhood, he might not be what he 'WAS'.

The only thing we should not lost from them is confidence

作者: ngkwongtak 時間: 11-11-2 16:43

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作者: GIPW 時間: 11-11-2 16:48

I actually have the same feeling as 樓主 once -  by the time I know he could not secure a second in in Paul Boys, this drove me crazy.  Just thinking is there anything I have missed out or have I not equipped him enough.  As time goes, I am more relax now - I should not pre-judge them just by interview or the success of getting into a school.
Life is long - he is just 5 and we have to be with him for another 10-20 years , going through the highs and lows.
This I treat as a challenge for me and him. Just like the old days when I go for interview for jobs - fail apply for another one  東家唔打打西家. As long as they have a good attitude and EQ, I am sure they will find ther own way (自己新天地）

That is how I always console myself

作者: jpang0107 時間: 11-11-2 17:01

唔好上個D面試班, 晒$晒時間, 小朋友都上左幾個月, 暫時得一個2nd In, 甘大把, 激死. 一線個D死晒.

作者: fatsin 時間: 11-11-2 17:05

極度同意

原帖由 jpang0107 於 11-11-2 17:01 發表
唔好上個D面試班, 晒$晒時間, 小朋友都上左幾個月, 暫時得一個2nd In, 甘大把, 激死. 一線個D死晒.

作者: 七點半 時間: 11-11-2 17:15

原帖由 ngkwongtak 於 11-11-2 16:43 發表
我睇到唔知邊一個post話反而屋村樓下飛髮鋪個仔有好多second in, 個靚仔由細係鋪頭見人多過見塵呀. 衣d咪sure win 囉.

睇黎遲d會有d暑期班開架喇, 叫做
"幼兒生活體驗工作假期", 會有不同工種及工作環境, 為期 ...

作者: Cookietk 時間: 11-11-2 17:31

I wanted to say that this system is very harsh for 5 year olds and their parents. We are talking about 5 year olds - I don't remember when I was their age, I knew so much at that time. I find myself wondering if I haven't taught my daughter enough vocabulary and math formulas. But should I even do that? They are so tiny but in this society, they are "supposed" to know so much and be so smart and mature to be recognized by these schools as "acceptable". A 15 minute to one hour performance for a 5 year old cannot be conclusive for their future performance. Plus, other equally important aspects are not being tested - for example, how much they love and care for their family and friends. I therefore tell myself to not take these interviews too personally. My child is as precious as always, her and my worthiness has not been diminished one bit from this grueling process.

作者: 無氣同你講 時間: 11-11-2 17:36

原帖由 Cookietk 於 11-11-2 09:31 發表
I wanted to say that this system is very harsh for 5 year olds and their parents. We are talking about 5 year olds - I don't remember when I was their age, I knew so much at that time. I find myself ...

但個痛苦位係, 而家咁即係叫未有著落, 呢份比拼同折磨就要延續申長落去，講真心話真係唔到我唔羡慕有好開始既家長。

因為，路曲折就行得更辛苦。我真係冇咩時間，或者呢個就係我個仔輸既原因。

[ 本帖最後由無氣同你講於 11-11-2 09:37 編輯 ]

作者: 無氣同你講 時間: 11-11-2 17:41

BTW, 我覺得我而家好似果D比老公拋棄既怨婦,

對著D學校講: 你仲咩唔要我同我個仔?

WAKAKAKKA

[ 本帖最後由無氣同你講於 11-11-2 09:45 編輯 ]

作者: CMWmama 時間: 11-11-2 19:30

我都一樣, 反省反省再反省! 仔仔有咩唔好？我有冇做得唔好？但，跌低後，起身要起得快！我已疊埋心水，轉戰其他，要比仔仔知道，人生咁多挫折，最緊要係面對的態度！
做過好榜樣，積極點！大家努力！

作者: 無氣同你講 時間: 11-11-2 20:03

原帖由 CMWmama 於 11-11-2 11:30 發表
我都一樣, 反省反省再反省! 仔仔有咩唔好？我有冇做得唔好？但，跌低後，起身要起得快！我已疊埋心水，轉戰其他，要比仔仔知道，人生咁多挫折，最緊要係面對的態度！
做過好榜樣，積極點！大家努力！ ...

係岩架, 做個好榜樣。

作者: ilj 時間: 11-11-2 20:12

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作者: 無氣同你講 時間: 11-11-2 20:15

原帖由 ilj 於 11-11-2 12:12 發表
比拼同折磨就要延續申長落去..我唔想申到6月...

我驚唔係到6月, 驚要到8月......

作者: lbbching 時間: 11-11-2 21:11

成日俾人問：你揀左學校未？我都會答：係學校揀我，唔係我揀學校。:;pppp:

作者: ilj 時間: 11-11-2 21:24

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作者: lojo11 時間: 11-11-2 21:28

小朋友叻與唔叻, 出眾唔出眾, 都係我地的寶貝, 係上天比我地嘅禮物... 唔會係比D小學去決定個小朋友好定唔好, 叻同埋唔叻... 唔叻又如何?

平常心面對... 只要肯努力, 始終會有別人的肯定... 並唔係邊一間名校收左你的小朋友 = 對小朋友能力的肯定..

PS, 我小兒今年小一

作者: moonychan 時間: 11-11-2 21:32

說得太好了 ^^

原帖由 redkoni 於 11-11-2 11:10 發表
如果你說人生如賽跑, 大家都期望能夠做到贏在起跑線, 也無可厚非, 問題是你怎樣設定你的終點, 到底最好是: 最快跑到終點? 最遲跑到終點? 跑到終點時有最好的成就? 跑到終點時有最大的得著? 跑到終點時感到最快樂? ...

作者: sytw 時間: 11-11-3 00:00

睇番同學同朋友既情況，都有幾多case係平時叻同俾老師睇好既小朋友暫時成績麻麻，好幾個都係咁收reject，其實果短短既interview未必一定揀到全部叻既小朋友，所以收到reject信唔代表小朋友唔叻，反而可能係間學校走寶，大家千奇唔好灰心！相信自行出左result後一定會有offers流出，再到6月又會有更多，雖然期間一路等會好痛苦，但去到最後一定會有好學校俾我地既小朋友！

作者: ilj 時間: 11-11-3 00:08

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作者: redkoni 時間: 11-11-3 00:20

原帖由 moonychan 於 11-11-2 21:32 發表
說得太好了 ^^

共勉之 !

作者: Bcat 時間: 11-11-3 00:26

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作者: ilj 時間: 11-11-3 00:33

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作者: joeyxlma 時間: 11-11-3 02:08

如果有什麼不如意,或者是沒有信心的時候, 我都會想起有一次某小學簡介上校長說: "如果我間學校不收你個小朋友, 你應該想 -- 你地學校走寶啦!"

作者: Cookietk 時間: 11-11-3 08:37

原帖由 joeyxlma 於 11-11-2 18:08 發表
如果有什麼不如意,或者是沒有信心的時候, 我都會想起有一次某小學簡介上校長說: "如果我間學校不收你個小朋友, 你應該想 -- 你地學校走寶啦!"

邊間學校咁有智慧?

作者: orangek 時間: 11-11-3 11:21

I also heard the similar statement from Principal Yau at Logos. It is so impressive!

作者: stephanielum 時間: 11-11-3 11:47 標題: 回復 25# ngkwongtak 的帖子

係邊度都見你攪爛gag! 當我地一班家長好down 既時候見到你個post, 有咩野唔開心都忘記左一陣...

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