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作者: puibpuib 時間: 11-10-18 15:05 標題: 如果小朋友問取錄結果, 我應該點答

首先, 我唔會主動同佢講邊間小學收左,邊間唔收。但如果佢話要入某間學校, 人地又唔收佢, 我應該點樣同佢講呢?
又或者, 佢記得interview個邊幾間, 如果佢問:點解唔讀個幾間甘又點答佢好呢

作者: Peter2880 時間: 11-10-18 15:07

拖字決 dont affect his morale in next interview

作者: ParcoBabyBaby 時間: 11-10-18 15:18

我覺得，婉轉D囉
上年我主動比佢睇那些REJECT 信
沒什麼大問題的。
細路仔，晒兩野轉頭就吾記得嫁啦。

作者: HaYi 時間: 11-10-18 15:43

我想好睇小朋友性格, 如果好認真的小朋友最好只說好的結果, 取錄個幾間, 等佢地餘下幾間信心大些, 如果喜歡玩的小朋友 (好似我個), 我連收左佢個D都唔話佢知, 都係拖下先.. 如果冇得second in, 我就成封 reject 信俾佢睇, 等佢驚下, 希望佢下次如果有其它學校 second in, 會認真些..

原帖由 ParcoBabyBaby 於 11-10-18 15:18 發表
我覺得，婉轉D囉
上年我主動比佢睇那些REJECT 信
沒什麼大問題的。
細路仔，晒兩野轉頭就吾記得嫁啦。

作者: CandyTheMom 時間: 11-10-18 15:53

I don't agree to show the reject letter to the child to 'scare' him. After all, it is not his/her fault for not getting a 2nd in or being rejected. They might have performed very well but the school choose other types of children.

It doesn't do any help to damage their confidence at this young age.

I would not tell him/her the result right away and will say we are still waiting. You never know what is going to happen, may be when you 'knock door' in July next year and they offer you another interview and being accepted!

原帖由 HaYi 於 11-10-18 15:43 發表
我想好睇小朋友性格, 如果好認真的小朋友最好只說好的結果, 取錄個幾間, 等佢地餘下幾間信心大些, 如果喜歡玩的小朋友 (好似我個), 我連收左佢個D都唔話佢知, 都係拖下先.. 如果冇得second in, 我就成封 reject 信 ...

作者: nnl 時間: 11-10-18 16:31

I agree with CandyTheMom, I will tell my daughter the results are not yet available until we have done ALL the interviews...
If we can't decide which school to go to, we will still tell her no results yet until after knock door.

作者: hyatt 時間: 11-10-18 16:33

無論收或不收，我暫時都不會說。等所有結果出了再告訴他吧。

作者: pvlam 時間: 11-10-18 17:00

I'll tell her the results ,I won't make her feel sad and bad.I will tell that she had tried her best but still have so many kids better than her ,so it doesn't really matter.The interveiws are so hard for them and I think few of the school they set the questions are over their ability because my daughter never takes the interveiw class.

作者: HaYi 時間: 11-10-18 17:24

前題是要他們要明白必須認真些, 盡量做好本份. 其實家長不說, 他的同學仔會說嗎 ? 我小朋友學校我都聽好多同學仔問彼此的情況. 好多家長好怕內儉的小朋友子女承受不起失敗, 但如果此遊戲是他們要去參與的, 都應要開始學下接受事實, 或明白無論他們的表現幾好, 都有幾會不合學校的要求..

原帖由 CandyTheMom 於 11-10-18 15:53 發表
I don't agree to show the reject letter to the child to 'scare' him. After all, it is not his/her fault for not getting a 2nd in or being rejected. They might have performed very well but the school c ...

作者: Charlotte_mom 時間: 11-10-18 17:28

同佢講: 我覺得好似大家唔係太夾, 我想睇多幾間先, 可能有更好既都唔定, 所以你都要TRY YOUR BEST
考學校幾時都係MATCHING GAME, 佢唔揀你, 係咪一定代表你小朋友唔好? 唔係丫嘛! 倒轉頭, 佢俾OFFER你一樣有機會REJECT佢, 所以令小朋友相信大家觀察緊大家, 都OK

作者: lovelytwins 時間: 11-10-18 17:36 標題: 接受失敗

做人第一件事就係要接受失敗.

我會照直講(巳講了),解釋比佢聽,佢有問點解,我話可能你有D地方唔夠叻,人冇可能樣樣咁叻,佢都明白.唔讀呢間可以讀第二間,一定有書讀.
叫佢唔駛介懷,佢亦聽完就算,完全冇事.

而家D學生郁D就要跳樓,就係接受唔到失敗.

作者: chanwendy 時間: 11-10-18 17:59

我八月已經收到第一封 reject letter, 我如實同亞女講. 我比佢更唔開心, 佢好平淡地答我, 咁咪考 xxx 同 yyy 囉, 佢唔係唔鍾意呢間喎, 佢都好鍾意架. 到而家考埋 xxx, 睇怕都多數唔得, 佢又會話咁咪考 yyy 囉. 同埋佢都知我報咗邊間自行, 我有問過佢, 如果連 yyy 都唔收咁點算呀, 佢又答我話讀自行嗰間囉. 我都唔知佢真係樂觀到咁, 還是其實佢都仲未知發生咩事.

作者: walkinshopping 時間: 11-10-18 19:04

到最後你決定入邊間或者有邊間收才跟小朋友說。用正面的態度去表達會收你小朋友個間小學是非常重要的。

作者: talknwrite 時間: 11-10-18 20:49

我會同佢講
有d學校未夠水平收你
阿媽未決定入邊間好.
可能遲些要再找些好一點的學校

作者: laiyuen 時間: 11-10-18 22:38

無論得定唔得，我都係會照直同佢講，（same as lovelytwins) 因為我想佢學習面對失敗，讓佢明白唔係凡事都可以如願，要有準備有時會不如人意。同時我會首先讚佢面試時做得好好，已盡左力，同埋解釋俾佢知學校唔收，並唔係佢做得唔好，而係學校會選擇適合既學生，可能有其他小朋友比佢更適合呢間學校。而將來佢亦都會搵到適合自己既學校。

作者: SCKnight 時間: 11-10-18 23:02

我會好坦白同佢講，今次呢間學校嘅面試好激烈，佢嘅表面已超乎我地想象。況且已經盡咗力，向前看嗎！

作者: headmama 時間: 11-10-18 23:24

i will tell her after all interviews finish.

作者: babybear 時間: 11-10-18 23:47

如果一直未收到offer, 我會答：「未知！」
直至收到第一間offer, 才告知佢之前被reject 既結果。但會好婉轉話被reject果間冇呢間咁適合佢。

[ 本帖最後由 babybear 於 11-10-18 23:49 編輯 ]

作者: Peter2880 時間: 11-10-19 00:00

原帖由 laiyuen 於 11-10-18 22:38 發表
無論得定唔得，我都係會照直同佢講，（same as lovelytwins) 因為我想佢學習面對失敗，讓佢明白唔係凡事都可以如願，要有準備有時會不如人意。同時我會首先讚佢面試時做得好好，已盡左力，同埋解釋俾佢知學校唔收，並唔係佢做得唔好， ...

I am so appreciate Lai yuen is brave enough to teach your kid such positive thinking. I need to learn but in fact, it is difficult to mode our kid to think positive in their 5.

作者: joeyxlma 時間: 11-10-19 00:55

原帖由 babybear 於 11-10-18 23:47 發表
如果一直未收到offer, 我會答：「未知！」
直至收到第一間offer, 才告知佢之前被reject 既結果。但會好婉轉話被reject果間冇呢間咁適合佢。

I think I will do the same.

Actually my girl has told me that some of her classmates already know which primary school they will study and she asked me why she don't know... I cannot remember the full answer but I think did not answer her question directly.... I don't know to affect her confidence in the interviews, too.

作者: 莎莎莉莉 時間: 11-10-19 08:34

會問的嗎?
我個仔完全唔關心...
有學校收, 有時佢連校名同location都配對唔到, 問我即係邊間學校.....

作者: taktakb2006 時間: 11-10-19 08:59

完全同意 laiyuen所講的, 我都想佢接受面對失敗, 幸福非必然這個道理, 尤其我阿女好貪玩, 及早話畀佢知我覺得對我個女黎講係好事, 希望佢對餘下落黎果d interview 更認真面對.

原帖由 laiyuen 於 11-10-18 22:38 發表
無論得定唔得，我都係會照直同佢講，（same as lovelytwins) 因為我想佢學習面對失敗，讓佢明白唔係凡事都可以如願，要有準備有時會不如人意。同時我會首先讚佢面試時做得好好，已盡左力，同埋解釋俾佢知學校唔收，並唔係佢做得唔好， ...

作者: madoka 時間: 11-10-19 09:26

我個女已經問咗我，有關學校唔收佢的情況和可能性。我同佢解釋學校不一定會收佢，因為實在有太多人報名。情況就好似去餐廳食飯時太多人等位，所以就入唔到。(這的確是真相。如果一間學校有100個位，但只有50人報名，應很大機會入到。)

我認為唔應該欺騙小朋友，因為終有一日佢會發現真相。例如不知何時，父母可能會在與朋友或親戚閑談時會談及選校事宜。比小朋友聽到，佢會重hurt，亦會傷害父母在小朋友心中的誠信。

作者: HaYi 時間: 11-10-19 10:23

我見我個之前就係一樣, 初初連個些校名/位置都搞錯.

其實我們同好多男孩子家長一樣, 都希望佢可以有機會YW, 因為真係好合佢的性格同學習的模式, 不過之後佢係學校聽佢朋友仔說得多DBS, 就回來同我說朋友仔都說DBS 是最勁的, 考到DBS 先係最叻, 有些說已second in 完左.(應該未開始..可能家長想佢地小朋友信心大些才如此說), 攪到佢成日要去睇DBS (當時仍未 first in) , 我地就同佢說DBS 是合好多小朋友, 亦是好學校, 但未必是最合你, 不需同朋友仔比較, 但佢一定要留心些, 無論去邊間面試, 自己先要盡力, 如果學校選不亦是冇得控制的.

所以其實不要看他們年紀細, 好多野都已經會在朋輩間流傳, 大人暪他們也是一時, 好快就需要改應對啦.

原帖由 莎莎莉莉 於 11-10-19 08:34 發表
會問的嗎?
我個仔完全唔關心...
有學校收, 有時佢連校名同location都配對唔到, 問我即係邊間學校.....

作者: ilj 時間: 11-10-19 11:21

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作者: CMWmama 時間: 11-10-19 12:23

我比左reject信仔仔睇, 他面色一沉, 其實大人細路都會有一刻不開心的 (但都是幾秒!) 我想他學會什麼叫失敗、挫折, 最重要的是以後的態度:例如檢討、改進, 當然還要家長的解釋和安慰(例如不是小朋友的錯, 是有很多原因等等) 不過仔仔知道後, 馬上取出所有中英文書本好好讀一次,又勤力寫字! 我都覺得有少少於心不忍! 但係他有一封2nd int, 我叫他認真點, 他說知道了. 有時告訴他都好! 如果我有10封reject信, 我都係show兩封算!

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