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作者: cwspsp 時間: 11-1-25 10:03 標題: 頂住條氣...

早兩日同同事講開, 話而家同緊個囡上playgroup, 點知俾佢話到我十惡不赦咁... 佢話你個囡都未夠一歲, 上咩playgroup 丫, 佢乜都唔識架啦, 你地o的家長成日都要催谷o的小朋友, 我地細個咩都唔識咪又係咁大... 跟住佢同另外一個同事你一言我一語咁, 講到我好似o個o的唔理個囡o既媽媽...

講到呢度, 大家咪以為我真係好谷個小朋友... 其實我只係安排左gym class 俾個囡o係weekend 上jar... 而我個囡都己經十個月大啦, 咁上下gym 都好正常o者.... 無啦啦俾人咁頂法, 真係百詞莫辯, 氣上心頭呀...

作者: creamlacing 時間: 11-1-25 10:13

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作者: bloglo110 時間: 11-1-25 10:43

well I think no need to care others comments. Different ppl make various comments!

As long as the kid is happy and you are happy. =)

作者: snow228 時間: 11-1-25 10:59

你同事一定無仔女nei? 我以前都係甘諗, 當自已有左小朋友就明白點解要上playgroup

作者: Mat_Dad 時間: 11-1-25 11:04

我發覺好多人一聽到人家子女做了什麼什麼, 第一反應都是說人家這不對那不對, 但過了不久, 他們自也如是. 我老婆幾個同事都是這樣, 以前我老婆好激氣

, 我叫佢唔好講咁多比人聽, 冇仔女的唔會明白, 有仔女的一係唔讚同你做法

、一係唔抵得你做法

. 仔女是自己的, 兩公婆自己討論咪算

作者: keio 時間: 11-1-25 11:04

唔好勞氣啦，我之前仲激氣呀！果時我個女９個月左右，我同佢去上”感覺統合”既PG, 俾我62 話呀，話個孫而家先幾個月大，日後仲有廿幾年書要讀，為乜要佢咁辛苦喎．．．．blah blah blah？! 佢仲要唔只話左我一次ｔｉｍ架, 激死我!

作者: babyislove 時間: 11-1-25 11:05

個囡係自己，你最清楚佢有咩需要，唔駛同外人解釋，亦唔需要外人贊成。有D人係鍾意管人o地D家事。

原帖由 cwspsp 於 11-1-25 10:03 發表
早兩日同同事講開, 話而家同緊個囡上playgroup, 點知俾佢話到我十惡不赦咁... 佢話你個囡都未夠一歲, 上咩playgroup 丫, 佢乜都唔識架啦, 你地o的家長成日都要催谷o的小朋友, 我地細個咩都唔識咪又係咁大... 跟住佢 ...

作者: SmartCandy 時間: 11-1-25 11:10

她們有小朋友嗎?妳你可以話比仲聽返playgroup只幾個小朋友一起玩, 學吓群體生活, 連自己都可以玩埋一份, 好個係屋企對住四面場, 不過話時話..好多機構都要一歲先至比讀playgroup, 我呀仔好似都係14個月到讀, 不過唔駛理人敢多, 最緊要自己開心, 講永遠天下無敵

作者: luckyho 時間: 11-1-25 11:25

係呀, 你同事應該係未有小朋友架la.

我以前未有小朋友都會諗駛唔駛上playgroup呀, 有的朋友更加話一定唔會俾咁細架bb上.

結果 ....... 我地全部 join 哂....... 哈哈.

so far, 我既小朋友好鍾意佢playgroup既老師, 佢上得好開心, 學左好多野.

我依家都唔敢同人地講有咩一定唔會俾bb做...我只會講係呢一刻我唔會, 將來個心意會唔會變就唔知.

家長們都係盡能力俾最好既我地小朋友.....如果你同小朋友都開心, 咁唔駛理人點睇.

作者: 小曳人 時間: 11-1-25 11:40

哈哈~ 只要你夠自信, 清楚明白自己做緊乜, 駛乜理人講乜呀!
我教返你轉頭都得添呀!

btw, 我會同老人家講: 同bb去玩!

作者: cherryiiiii 時間: 11-1-25 11:50

唉....我未一樣....阿B係我阿媽湊既....第一次話帶阿B返playgroup佢幾大反應呀.....以為我迫阿B學D咩咁...又話佢咁細個又淒涼...又咁又咁....又話咩錫小朋友唔係咁....之後我同佢講阿B上得好開心....又俾D相佢睇...佢先至開始接受咋

作者: kristinecheng 時間: 11-1-25 11:53

樓主唔好唔開心啦，你啲同事唔了解者，好似餵人奶咁，都有好多人有誤解，覺得啲媽咪成日害啲囝囡咁。我地只要記住，自己先係bb既父母，係唯一要對佢既成長負責既人，其他人既意見，合理咪聽吓，唔合理既就當耳邊風。做媽媽已經好辛苦，唔好因為啲閒氣谷親自己。
我阿b9個月開始上幼潛，好幸運連續抽到4期上到宜家，我覺得對佢嬰兒期既發展好有幫助。每期上完既評估都俾我可以了解阿囝既長處同短處，從而幫佢進行適當既訓練，亦俾我知道bb係咩階段要識啲咩，知道佢發展得好唔好。其實上playgroup，辛苦既係大人，我阿囝每次上堂都不知玩得幾開心。

[ 本帖最後由 kristinecheng 於 11-1-25 11:56 編輯 ]

作者: piglet1212 時間: 11-1-25 12:19

好彩我奶奶無話我地，仲同埋阿仔一齊上PG添…樓主，你啲同事都幾食古不化…

作者: bopui0607 時間: 11-1-25 12:24 標題: 回復 12# cwspsp 的帖子

做父母真係要EQ高, 除左用黎教小朋友, 仲要應付其他人對教養小朋友不同的睇法, 最緊要自己知點解要咁做, 當然唔好一味跟風啦, 忠於自己既決定, 但同時吸取其他人有建設性既建議就OK.

作者: cincin_ko 時間: 11-1-25 12:25

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作者: nys262 時間: 11-1-25 12:39

樓主，唔好激親自己，清楚自己爲小朋友好就ok了。

我囡囡才一歲，上週六見奶粉(好缺貨的A-)得返2罐，咪叫爸爸去街時留意下有就買返幾罐，過兩日當99知道此事就話: "bb 都大啦，唔洗飲咁多奶，佢便便又唔係好好，飲少兩餐奶(bb一日都只係飲3次)，食生果代替咪重好，又唔洗爸爸咁辛苦去撲奶粉......(删三萬字)"。

吓....一歲飲少d奶? 食生果代替??

哈哈哈....我只係笑笑口咁答: "好丫，妳同bb講啦!"

作者: fatmuichai 時間: 11-1-25 13:03 標題: 回復 1# cwspsp 的帖子

你同事一係未有仔女，一係就仔女已經好大個。我未生B之前都懷疑過咁細個人仔返playgroup有冇用。我地兩公婆親自帶個囡返過playgroup之後都覺得好有用。有咩方法教囡，可以同佢玩咩遊戲，依家呢代幼兒園流行唱咩歌仔，好多我地都係從playgroup學返黎。我覺得playgroup唔單止係俾BB玩，其實仲俾父母可以同小朋友建立親子關係。以前我地三歲先讀幼稚園，阿爸阿媽邊有咁多機會真係可以同我地一齊上堂玩，親身了解我地返學會做d乜？

作者: fanwong29 時間: 11-1-25 13:29

當年我囝囝歲幾先去Playgroup,諗番起真喺遲咗,支持你!加油!

作者: CatEgg 時間: 11-1-25 14:41

個女係你的,學費又係你比,佢只係你同事啫,為佢激氣唔抵呀。
小朋友返pg幾好吖,我女返pg不知幾開心,次次去到學校附近已經好興奮、入到學校又想即刻衝入課室(好彩仲識企係除鞋區等我,總算學識咩叫規則)

作者: himuimui 時間: 11-1-25 15:11

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作者: hagupit 時間: 11-1-25 15:21

我6個月帶bb去playgroup, 同事都話咁細就帶。我當時既心態係當親子時間，唔係想佢學d乜野, 因為平時工人同婆婆揍bb，我驚bb唔黏我，所以星期六日就同佢去playgroup玩, 希望嗰d時間只係得我同bb。依家bb13個月大，佢都好黏我，所以我覺得冇問題。如果唔返playgroup，佢當時得6個月，一定要抱又唔識爬，我都唔知帶佢去邊到玩，係playgroup就可以放低佢玩。

作者: kristinecheng 時間: 11-1-25 15:51

bb sign都好好，不過我係搵tutor教咗我地大人之後自己教bb（因為form唔到playgroup），當bb語言表達能力未成熟時同佢溝通到，真係好開心﹗

原帖由 himuimui 於 11-1-25 15:11 發表
hahaha. Don't be upset. They are not mama so they don't understand. Even some have kids also said " why playgroup " to me. My boy attend since 4 months ( baby sign ) to now. I only treat BB went to pl ...

作者: STMFHH 時間: 11-1-25 16:08

幾時開始返o什麼類型嘅playgroup, 只要唔過量, 完全係好事。我們這一代的爸媽好多都冇經驗 …有咩方法教，同佢玩咩遊戲，bb應該做到d乜 etc …除咗比bb玩, 父母學嘅嘢可能重多。
nys262, 如果你唔到奶粉, 你有冇入會, 打去熱線問吓佢哋有d服務可以幫到你

作者: cwspsp 時間: 11-1-25 16:28

我o個兩個同事係around 30架喇, 不過就未結婚未有小朋友law... 其實我都知無謂激氣, 反正個囡係我又唔係佢... 所以o係度呻下, 順番條氣呀~

作者: 梅媽媽 時間: 11-1-25 18:30

道不同不相為謀,唔啱傾下次問咩都話唔知.唔使同佢地講仔女經,佢地唔會明.

作者: momo627 時間: 11-1-25 19:23

Yes, I can't believe parents let their babies to join playgroups so early and so many in the past.

After my baby was borned and when he was 6 mths old, I let him join gym class to see if he like it....finally we have 2 gym classes a week as he loves it so much as we (hb and I) have fun and feel happy to see his happy face during the class.

Last Nov, I tried language class as my baby can only speak a few words and now he is 19 mths, though I don't know it is good or not as there are different views.

He had his first Spanish and the teacher is great, makes the lessons interesting and even my hb and I want to learn Spanish when we attended the class with my baby. Now, we can see him have fun in the class, looks at the teachers' lip and tries to pronouce the words (he seldom does this at home). My maid says he doesn't want to leave every time after classes. As English and Mandarin are useful for him in the future, we will try to have them in Feb, see if he enjoys; actually it is only 6 mths earlier as he will learn them in Pre-nursery.

We have other playgroups as well, some teaching them how to do things like tidy up, pull the chair, put the food in the plate and eat, and throw away rubbish and clean his hands by himself. Though you can say parents can do it ourself, but we always need to work late and, it is much better than letting the babies playing with toys and "chat" and "learn" the language from my maid.

Many of my friends also critize if it is necessary to have so many pg. Actually it is only 1 or 2 class a day from Tue to Friday, 45 min@, so it takes him 1.5 hrs a day to learn or "play" and try to have his "social life" with other babies and adults. And we have some on Sat, that we will go with him and there we can see how much fun he has.

The most important to me on whether to have how many and which pgs is, it won't make him feel tired (as it takes 1.5 hrs a day after he wakes up and have milk, the most active timing), and he has fun and enjoys it.

We tried music when he was one but he didn't like it so we didn't join any. Now we will have trial again in Feb as he may like it as he grows up a bit; if not, just forget it.

So, I would only pick those that he loves them and can learn something there.

But yes, as what you said......many people always think their views are "absolutely right" and you need to follow their "instructions. They won't accept other views or even listen to your reasonale behind.........so I will feel mad when they "speak words" to me also.

作者: babeBBDoll 時間: 11-1-25 22:56

唔好理佢啦, 而家報 playgroup 既心態其實都係想個小朋友去玩下, playgroup 都係去玩多, 咁都叫谷個小朋友

作者: 3pigmama 時間: 11-1-26 00:45

其實有不同的人對playgroup有不同看法好正常, 基本上playgroup 的宗旨是好的. 我BB好早已上. 反而我會focus什麼playgroup會學到野而又快樂.

其實我們一班有子女上playgroup的父母,可以大家交流一下.

作者: momo627 時間: 11-1-26 00:51 標題: 回復 28# 3pigmama 的帖子

agree. Me too, only picks those my baby enjoys (you can see from his happy face), won't disturb his rest time (only 1.5 hrs a day in the morning after he wakes up and have milk and it is his most active time, and won't do harm to my baby.

Yes, let's share. I do join playgroups, really hard to serach details/information for good one like music class and any other interesting class. Hope mammys can share their views....just try to find the best or with good comments, as we spend $ ga ma.

作者: winifred102 時間: 11-1-26 01:33

Hi mommies,
My son is now 2 and he's been attending playgroup lessons since he was 4 months old and now he has Eng + PTH playgroup everyday and each lesson lasts for 45 min.

I think other people just misunderstand that playgroups are only for the babies.  In fact, from the playgroup lessons, we as parent can learn from the teachers of how we play and communicate with our babies.  I learn all the kids' songs and rhyms from playgroups (before that I only could sing Twinkle Twinkle Little Star and Mary Had a Little Lamb).  I even got a copy of the lyrics of every songs from the playgroups and learnt every word by heart, so that I can sing to my son everyday.

I guess what the teachers say and do during playgroup classes are really good example for us as being a new mom to learn.  Of course, it also depends on the quality of the playgroup that we select.

Playgroup is also a great chance not only for my son to make friends with other babies, but also me to know other mommies and the teachers too.  We can do a lot of sharing during/after classes.

作者: KaHeiBaBa 時間: 11-1-26 05:00

原帖由 梅媽媽 於 11-1-25 18:30 發表
道不同不相為謀,唔啱傾下次問咩都話唔知.唔使同佢地講仔女經,佢地唔會明.

同意 !!

若要人似我，除非兩個我；樓主，加油呀 !!

作者: 小克 時間: 11-1-26 08:38

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作者: Freesia_cat 時間: 11-1-26 09:44

通常無小朋友的朋友都會問我點解6個月已經開始要上pg，質疑效用; 而我那些已有仔女或已懷孕的朋友就會成日問我上咩pg的意見。

對於質疑我的朋友，我係會話佢地知咩原因咩性質我要我兒去上某某pg，全部都係適合小朋友那個年齡需要的pg，而且小兒上得好開心又有進步，所以好多時到呢d朋友有左就問我pg意見。

算啦! 你那些同事到時就明啦! 宜家最緊要係你及你先生覺得自己為女兒作出的選擇是最好的。

作者: kristinecheng 時間: 11-1-26 11:25

3pigmama and momo627，

好呀，大家分享上playgroup既成效，對現任/快將成為baby/toddle既家長都係好事。

我講吓自己經驗，bb 9個月左右我地就上幼潛，上到宜家第4個course，應該會係最後一期。我個人同bb都得著好多，所以2nd b我都會幫佢報，希望抽到啦﹗

另外bb sign同rightmind既理論我都幾認同，bb sign我就係自己教，kinder u因為近屋企同埋我阿b唔係好鍾意我同佢flash（可能我flash得唔好），所以淨係上playgroup，7-8個月時開始上，到15m左右我開始同佢報language既playgroup先停。

由於我想阿b1歲之後先學academic既嘢，我都係15m左右開始上net教既playgroup，只限英文，而且選擇近屋企既，因為可以安排星期六一早上，咁剩番既時間可以free啲家庭樂。不過最近我見阿b既英文底都開始okay，所以我想幫佢搵多堂mandarin既playgroup係weekday上，可惜屋企附近冇，你地有冇好介紹呢？

黎緊2歲就想同佢加音樂同游水班，不過都要視乎bb既作息時間，因為暫時我都想focus家庭樂多啲，但係playgroup我又想自己帶番，所以必要時我可能自己教佢piano同游水~

作者: suki1028 時間: 11-1-26 11:57

樓主唔使唔開心啦，冇小朋友既人真係唔明架

衣家好多生得一個，係獨子／女，越早俾小朋友知道個世界唔只得佢一個好重要架，我都覺得呀B返playgroup其實都係去小朋友玩下，早啲發展佢既social skills啫

只要係開心既，又學到野，唔使理人點講啦

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