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作者: CFaHB 時間: 09-10-20 13:01 標題: 小朋友入左名校, 但 ....
滿江紅 .... or arm arm 合格多 dd
佢媽咪怪學校太深, 比分比得緊 .... (不過又有人可以攞到近滿分)
小朋友初小咋 ...
當年入到名校, 佢媽咪真係開心到顛架, 所以一定唔會轉校
我唯有叫佢再努力d啦, 個底打唔好, 點再上呀 ?
佢同小朋友已經日日開火, 咁好咩 ?
作者: JT2008 時間: 09-10-20 13:18
咁樣好大鑊..攪到小朋友對讀書無興趣..幾時到大呀........
作者: good-boy 時間: 09-10-20 13:20
入名校, 預深 ........
作者: huayan 時間: 09-10-20 13:22
勉強無幸福...
作者: MaggieHei 時間: 09-10-20 13:23
如果係我, 會轉校.
因此間學校似乎唔多適知個小朋友. 佢依定先 p2, 幾時才完成 p6 !
而且, 佢成績唔好, 好影響佢自信同學習興趣.
名校係好......不過, 都要睇個小朋友受唔受.
普通學校也能教出好學生......
作者: ttpp 時間: 09-10-20 13:43
agreed, but if we don't try, how do we know? or maybe the child is a late starter and will catch up later on (I've seen many examples when I was at school).
If changing school from 名校, where would you go? Primary schools that are next level down will normally push the kids even harder, so that their students can get into Secondary 名校. So for us, perhaps the only choice is to leave "traditional" type of schooling and into international schools.
原帖由 huayan 於 09-10-20 13:22 發表 
勉強無幸福...
作者: fsforth 時間: 09-10-20 13:48 標題: 回覆 1# CFaHB 的文章
賽翁得馬,焉知非禍;賽翁失馬,焉知非福
作者: gym 時間: 09-10-20 13:52
Need to find out the root of the problem. Changing schools may or may not help.
作者: momochiu 時間: 09-10-20 13:55
which school? 有D 唔多出名學校都好谷, 同D名校一樣谷底, 反而有D名校都唔係好谷。
[ 本帖最後由 momochiu 於 09-10-20 13:58 編輯 ]
作者: daisy17772 時間: 09-10-20 13:59
Find out the reason why the kid is lag behind. Is it related to the way of their teaching, or the way your child is most motivated in learning? Or does this have anything to do with a particular teacher, and a particular subject?
There're other schools in HK (not int'l schools) that do education differently from local elite schools, e.g. logos academy, 優才書院, 國際基督教優質音樂中學暨小學 etc., apart from taking the extreme by going to int'l schools.
Think from the other way, it's not a bad thing to find out there're some problems in P1, at least it's not so late, that the parents could have a chance to reflect on the selection of school for the kids.
作者: daisy17772 時間: 09-10-20 14:01
原帖由 momochiu 於 09-10-20 13:55 發表
which school? 有D 唔多出名學校都好谷, 同D名校一樣谷底, 反而有D名校都唔係好谷。
Yes usually, if those elite schools are 1 dragon schools, they don't need to be too pushy as there're still years for the school to help improve their students, without having to meet the pressure of secondary allocation.
作者: G-Ma 時間: 09-10-20 17:06
我會觀察多一年, 如果仲係咁, 我諗我會幫小朋友轉校, 再咁讀落去小朋友會無哂自信心, 對讀書會無興趣, 影響深遠.
原帖由 CFaHB 於 09-10-20 13:01 發表
滿江紅 .... or arm arm 合格多 dd
佢媽咪怪學校太深, 比分比得緊 .... (不過又有人可以攞到近滿分)
小朋友初小咋 ...
當年入到名校, 佢媽咪真係開心到顛架, 所以一定唔會轉校
我唯有叫佢再努力d啦, 個底打唔好, ...
作者: goodboyg 時間: 09-10-20 17:07
讀完書最終都是工作，讀書同出社會做事是兩回事，有D人讀書唔叻，但工作有成就，最重要的是學習經歷人生，面對逆景懂自強，天生我才必有用，多D鼓勵啦！可以重讀架！
作者: hlbaby2004 時間: 09-10-20 17:44
邊間小學？
原帖由 CFaHB 於 09-10-20 13:01 發表
滿江紅 .... or arm arm 合格多 dd
佢媽咪怪學校太深, 比分比得緊 .... (不過又有人可以攞到近滿分)
小朋友初小咋 ...
當年入到名校, 佢媽咪真係開心到顛架, 所以一定唔會轉校
我唯有叫佢再努力d啦, 個底打唔好, ...
作者: InitialD 時間: 09-10-20 18:07
If this is by allocation, it must be either SJ or LS.原帖由 hlbaby2004 於 09-10-20 17:44 發表
邊間小學？
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作者: 火柴人媽媽 時間: 09-10-21 09:32
非常認同 
原帖由 goodboyg 於 09-10-20 17:07 發表
讀完書最終都是工作，讀書同出社會做事是兩回事，有D人讀書唔叻，但工作有成就，最重要的是學習經歷人生，面對逆景懂自強，天生我才必有用，多D鼓勵啦！可以重讀架！ ...
作者: bigfoothk 時間: 09-10-21 10:07
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作者: ETdad 時間: 09-10-21 10:23
Agree with daisy1772 and goodboyg.
Maybe parents could provide more assistance to the child such as accompany them while they are doing homework (not doing for them), reading books or revisions.
Find out if they really understand what they read.
Otherwise may need to strengthen those areas that they are weak in.
They will need guidance/help in knowing which are the important points to remember for the tests.
Each of our children is unique and with different learning ability.
All in all, parents should learn to control themselves and don’t expect they have the adult’s understanding and reasoning.
We should recall how good we were when we were at their age.
Relax and let’s encourage one another!
作者: martse 時間: 09-10-21 11:30
我建議嗰個媽咪要找個老師睇功課用教佢個仔....
二年班啫, 仲有好多時間追, ...我有個friend係名校小學時期都滿江紅,到中學先開 hill, 依家咪都係係名大學出呢做律師....爸爸媽媽們要堅持啊, 我地d仔女既潛質有時係無咁早爆出呢....不過千其唔好比個小朋友太大壓力同打擊佢既自信...唔好放棄呀~
MARTSE
原帖由 CFaHB 於 09-10-20 13:01 發表
滿江紅 .... or arm arm 合格多 dd
佢媽咪怪學校太深, 比分比得緊 .... (不過又有人可以攞到近滿分)
小朋友初小咋 ...
當年入到名校, 佢媽咪真係開心到顛架, 所以一定唔會轉校
我唯有叫佢再努力d啦, 個底打唔好, ...
作者: davidmimi 時間: 09-10-21 11:48
如果係名校成績差便轉去普通學校.
轉去到普通學校都成績差又如何呢?? 係咪轉去國際學校呢??
轉校絕對係消極做法.
作者: martse 時間: 09-10-21 11:52
同意
原帖由 davidmimi 於 09-10-21 11:48 發表
如果係名校成績差便轉去普通學校.
轉去到普通學校都成績差又如何呢?? 係咪轉去國際學校呢??
轉校絕對係消極做法.
作者: childrenfirst 時間: 09-10-21 11:58
very touching when i read this. Add oil!
原帖由 bigfoothk 於 09-10-21 10:07 發表
agree,我的小孩一樣初小科科紅/緊緊合格,老公常常要孩子轉校,每日擔心默書和考試成績,最怕學校call me (見家長),因巳見過校長,連朋友建議轉校,我信是主安排/緣份,不要放棄,最壞打算是留班.開頭上補習社無成績,現全職 ...
作者: 嗅BB 時間: 09-10-21 15:39
真係進退兩難.
但你有無問過小朋友既意思.
點解日日都會同小朋友開火呀?
學校有無咩意見.現時學校仲有無留班或叫踢出校咁呢
作者: Chunyan 時間: 09-10-21 16:06
入得名校的學生及其父母都應預備要努力,不努力好容易落後,反而影響小朋友的自信.
作者: citipeggy 時間: 09-10-21 21:30
Which school is it?
作者: BenKeung 時間: 09-10-21 21:39
Don't be stupid to change another school. Find out the root cause and do the best to solve it.
作者: momochiu 時間: 09-10-21 22:04
Each child is different. If the child cannot catch up with the school, there will be pressure on him/her which may impact the confidence. Confidence is more important than results which affect the whole life.
Pls. consider carefully and switch school when necessary. Famous school is not good unless suitable to your child.
作者: G-Ma 時間: 09-10-22 00:11
朋友有同樣情況, 囡囡轉校後成積好左好多, 仲係頭幾名, 個人有返自信, 做其他事都積極左. 有時退一步海闊天空, 前面唔係只得一條路, 每人性格, 吸收力, 資質都唔同, 最緊要係要適合自己, 量力而為.
作者: edf 時間: 09-10-22 01:00
agree, 普通學校考第一, 一定好過名校考近尾, 自信心失了有排攪!原帖由 G-Ma 於 09-10-20 17:06 發表
我會觀察多一年, 如果仲係咁, 我諗我會幫小朋友轉校, 再咁讀落去小朋友會無哂自信心, 對讀書會無興趣, 影響深遠.
作者: CFaHB 時間: 09-10-22 10:40
轉校一定唔會喇, 我唔敢提, 因為得來不易 ~
係一間考入去的學校,
當年小朋友考到之後, 佢重上台同 k2 家長做 sharing
我朋友因為好忙, 收入又唔多,
小朋友只可一星期去一次"名補習社" 的雞精班
佢人好好的, 見佢煩, 又幫唔到d咩 ...
作者: heidimami 時間: 09-10-22 11:43
咁講法我覺得已經唔係間學校適唔適合小朋友個問題，係一定唔可以轉校，唔通面子真係緊要過孩子？
原帖由 CFaHB 於 09-10-22 10:40 發表
轉校一定唔會喇, 我唔敢提, 因為得來不易 ~
係一間考入去的學校,
當年小朋友考到之後, 佢重上台同 k2 家長做 sharing
我朋友因為好忙, 收入又唔多,
小朋友只可一星期去一次"名補習社" 的雞精班
佢人好好的, 見佢 ...
作者: G-Ma 時間: 09-10-22 11:48
為左面子, 即係唔得都要夾硬讀落去, 大家都辛苦.
原帖由 CFaHB 於 09-10-22 10:40 發表
轉校一定唔會喇, 我唔敢提, 因為得來不易 ~
係一間考入去的學校,
當年小朋友考到之後, 佢重上台同 k2 家長做 sharing
我朋友因為好忙, 收入又唔多,
小朋友只可一星期去一次"名補習社" 的雞精班
佢人好好的, 見佢 ...
作者: ahtan 時間: 09-10-22 12:46
原帖由 CFaHB 於 09-10-22 10:40 發表
轉校一定唔會喇, 我唔敢提, 因為得來不易 ~
係一間考入去的學校,
當年小朋友考到之後, 佢重上台同 k2 家長做 sharing
我朋友因為好忙, 收入又唔多,
小朋友只可一星期去一次"名補習社" 的雞精班
佢人好好的, 見佢 ...
Does the kid start to leave behind already in P1? Or only when he gets to P2? A lot of the schools suddenly jump up the level in P2 and students might be hard to adjust. Did your friend talk to the teachers and find out what is the main problem? Is the kid not concentrating enough in class? Is the kid afraid to say that he doesn't understand? Is he not interested in reading books? Even if the mom is busy at work, she can give him extra excercise to do and award him with a small toy or something ( 15 mins of video game time) after he finishes. Maybe she can also look into hiring some local university students to come tutor the kid twice a week ( those are quite reasonably priced...$150-200 per hour? Or less....) to help.
作者: jamesbond007 時間: 09-10-22 13:55
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作者: stephanieching 時間: 09-10-22 14:40
不只小朋友, 就算大人都要有信心有鬥心先會成功, 試想若自己每日返工都是要做一些力有不隸的事, 仲要每日比老細罵無用, 你會否因此發奮圖強, 雖然有些人會, 但有些人只會越踩越無自信, 我估大家要清楚小朋友是那一類型, 我覺得選小學不是選一間人人爭住讀, 成績超班就是好學校, 選適合自己小朋友的學校最為重要 !
作者: goodmama2003 時間: 09-10-22 14:46
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作者: ziyi 時間: 09-10-22 14:48
自信心通常是建基於每成本做完一件事,慢慢建立的,這樣當成功後,才會有膽量去嘗試新的
所以,如果他覺得差過其他小朋友,那會容易缺乏自信,或只有好表面的自信,一碰到真正的試煉是就露出原來
如果是我會選擇轉校,轉一間更適合的
作者: LittleKidult 時間: 09-10-22 17:36
原帖由 CFaHB 於 09-10-22 10:40 發表
轉校一定唔會喇, 我唔敢提, 因為得來不易 ~
係一間考入去的學校,
當年小朋友考到之後, 佢重上台同 k2 家長做 sharing
我朋友因為好忙, 收入又唔多,
小朋友只可一星期去一次"名補習社" 的雞精班
佢人好好的, 見佢 ...
我地未讀過名校(小學), 所以唔知要求係咪咁高, 不過如果初小都已經要補習先跟得上, 我會同佢轉校.....
我覺得童年時要比多d時間小朋友玩, 呢段係人生中應該最快樂同無憂既時候黎...
作者: panbaby 時間: 09-10-22 18:33
現在談轉校太早了吧, 在新的學習環境下, 是需要時間來磨合的, 小孩這麼小, 大把時間追回來, 得幾歳人仔, 多數人的天份是差不多的, 可能是以前幼稚園程度淺, 或者父母要投放多些資源...
但有一點是, 妳讀得名校, 妳不能有錯覺學校會自然教到妳的孩子文武全才, 名校對父母的要求反而很高, 妳要她
學業有成, 便要投放多些心血...
原帖由 CFaHB 於 09-10-22 10:40 發表
轉校一定唔會喇, 我唔敢提, 因為得來不易 ~
係一間考入去的學校,
當年小朋友考到之後, 佢重上台同 k2 家長做 sharing
我朋友因為好忙, 收入又唔多,
小朋友只可一星期去一次"名補習社" 的雞精班
佢人好好的, 見佢 ...
作者: KinKin_Mama 時間: 09-10-22 21:33
每件事都唔應該輕易放棄, 正視及解決問題先係方法, 否則轉幾多次都無用
作者: mattsmum 時間: 09-10-22 21:42
“選適合自己小朋友的學校最為重要 !”
讲的好，不要因为名气而担心， 童年只一次，
作者: GIPW 時間: 09-10-22 22:38
原帖由 LittleKidult 於 09-10-22 17:36 發表
我地未讀過名校(小學), 所以唔知要求係咪咁高, 不過如果初小都已經要補習先跟得上, 我會同佢轉校.....
我覺得童年時要比多d時間小朋友玩, 呢段係人生中應該最快樂同無憂既時候黎... ...
Agree. Really need to consider the psychological development of the child. If the child grow up in an inferior enviroment, she might not grow up happily.
I do not agree to 補習 when they are in P1 or P2. Study is a self initiave stuff, if you need 補習 evensince you are small, you will heavily rely on the tuition teacher. I have come across children when they just would not like to think of an answer themselves but rely on tuition teacher to give an answer. Or is very afraid to fail.
My kid has the same problem. She always asks me if the answer is right before she writes them down on the answer sheet. She did this because she is lack of confidence or she is afraid to fail. if she can not take any 挫折 at this age, what happen when she grows up. We are not the super riche and their path will not be smooth. So at this young age, they still aford to learn from failure.
作者: oknsca 時間: 09-10-23 08:51
我細B都有相同情况..可能kinder太淺,而家好似跳班咁,追得辛苦,成績唔好
....唔知佢好運定點..偏偏又有學校收佢...!佢天資唔差..希望努力啲快啲有改進啦!原帖由 panbaby 於 09-10-22 18:33 發表
現在談轉校太早了吧, 在新的學習環境下, 是需要時間來磨合的, 小孩這麼小, 大把時間追回來, 得幾歳人仔, 多數人的天份是差不多的, 可能是以前幼稚園程度淺, 或者父母要投放多些資源...
但有一點是, 妳讀得名校, 妳 ...
作者: Rattie 時間: 09-10-23 11:45
我朋友個囡情況相似,不過佢接受個囡嘅天資尚待發展,冇發哂癲咁去谷小朋友,咁當然都有補習,幫得幾多得幾多.但就有個良好嘅親子關係.小朋友一樣可以有個愉快嘅學習過程.
有人考第一就梗有人考第尾.除非學校請走,唔會輕易放棄個學位.佢覺得個囡去到邊成績可能都係差唔多,咁名校出來,中學要叩門應該著數D啩.
作者: daisy17772 時間: 09-10-23 13:39
原帖由 goodmama2003 於 09-10-22 14:46 發表
..入名校, 難過媽媽找工架!
Hei, so true in HK.
But a child's self confidence is really important. When they lose confidence, they don't believe in what they can achieve. Confidence is a "belief". So as mom, we should never give up this belief about our children.
作者: Felixcwt 時間: 09-10-26 01:20
原帖由 momochiu 於 09-10-21 22:04 發表
Each child is different. If the child cannot catch up with the school, there will be pressure on him/her which may impact the confidence. Confidence is more important than results which affect the who ...
完全讚同,入得到名校又如何? 小朋友開心嗎? 請各位家長認清楚方向才報讀學校,應該衡量自己小朋友適合讀哪一類型嘅學校,勉強冇幸福!唔好將自己嘅意願強加响小朋友身上,咁樣對小朋友好唔公平.:cry:
作者: goodmama2003 時間: 09-10-26 07:44
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作者: HIN2003 時間: 09-10-26 07:54
原帖由 CFaHB 於 09-10-22 10:40 發表
轉校一定唔會喇, 我唔敢提, 因為得來不易 ~
係一間考入去的學校,
當年小朋友考到之後, 佢重上台同 k2 家長做 sharing
我朋友因為好忙, 收入又唔多,
小朋友只可一星期去一次"名補習社" 的雞精班
佢人好好的, 見佢 ...
重要你朋友好忙, 收入又唔多.
佢有無聽過鄧靄琳ge親身經歷?
作者: 漢堡飽 時間: 09-10-26 10:36
原帖由 goodmama2003 於 09-10-26 07:44 發表
辭工倍仔女讀書是第一步.
第2步是請補習.
如果2步都是科科不合格, 就會給通知, 貴子女要出校啦, 如果不是就要留班.
名校出來後, 在普通學校又會名列前茅.
自信心再心來.
之後會成績好.
成績好返後,再去考名校.或 ...
你的建議最好，想要有成績，一定要付出，唔好奢望不付出有奇蹟。全心去幫仔女先。
作者: tinkerbell2004 時間: 09-10-26 11:19
Some people told me that the students in famous schools easily come to two extremities. The top students are top because they are clever, diligent or having more resource and training ..... not solely what they can get from the school.
If parents don't want to give up the place in the famous school, both you and the children must work hard.
If they can not get up with the school curriculum, then I think it's better to change the school.
Students from other schools can get good results in HKCEE recently.
原帖由 panbaby 於 09-10-22 18:33 發表
現在談轉校太早了吧, 在新的學習環境下, 是需要時間來磨合的, 小孩這麼小, 大把時間追回來, 得幾歳人仔, 多數人的天份是差不多的, 可能是以前幼稚園程度淺, 或者父母要投放多些資源...
但有一點是, 妳讀得名校, 妳 ...
作者: tracytang 時間: 09-10-26 13:14
可否講我知? 我未聽過. 謝謝!!!
原帖由 HIN2003 於 09-10-26 07:54 發表
重要你朋友好忙, 收入又唔多.
佢有無聽過鄧靄琳ge親身經歷?
作者: norakyng 時間: 09-10-26 13:45
原帖由 Felixcwt 於 09-10-26 01:20 發表
完全讚同,入得到名校又如何? 小朋友開心嗎? 請各位家長認清楚方向才報讀學校,應該衡量自己小朋友適合讀哪一類型嘅學校,勉強冇幸福!唔好將自己嘅意願強加响小朋友身上,咁樣對小朋友好唔公平.:cry: ...
最重要是小朋友讀書讀得開心, 開開心心上學去，勉強只會令到家長和小朋友也痛苦。
作者: HIN2003 時間: 09-10-26 17:44
原帖由 tracytang 於 09-10-26 13:14 發表
可否講我知? 我未聽過. 謝謝!!!
大致上樓主朋友個case差不多. 詳細就唔記得, 但而家鄧靄琳都時常有親子講座.
或者有無mami記得? 可以講吓!
作者: bbone 時間: 09-10-26 21:43
I also think that changing school is the last resort. It's really difficult to get into an elite school. If the child mentioned here is a girl, I would assume she's in DGS. If that really is the case, then the child is facing very keen competition in her class.
I heard almost all students from famous schools go to tutoring classes. I think this is the best means to enhance parent-child relationship. If this family cannot afford tutoring for more than once a week, then perhaps the mother should change her approach. Battle with the child daily only makes matter worse. Try to use the praising method instead of saying something harsh to the child. Give the child a break. It's not easy to survive in a top notch school. Give the child as much encouragement as possilbe, build up his/her confidence, and she'll do much better.
Parents should be a child's confidence builder, not the destroyer.
作者: meipo28 時間: 09-10-28 17:03
大至係甘 (如有錯誤,請指教)
佢囝囝原本在傳統名校就讀.成績唔係幾好,鄧靄琳於是轉做全職mum希望谷起佢成績. 但係情況無改善,佢更出手打囝,越打越重手,更影響一家人的關係.有一次鄧靄琳猛然發現佢個囝將自己畫成一個恐怖女巫 ,佢好震驚,亦醒悟過來.
最後佢同囝囝轉去一間較平凡但有愛心既學校,慢慢重建親子關係, 而囝囝亦變得有自信更考取到好成績. 宜家佢囝囝好似都讀大學啦.
我睇過鄧靄琳幾本書,有幾次都睇到喊哂.非常touching.
原帖由 HIN2003 於 09-10-26 17:44 發表
大致上樓主朋友個case差不多. 詳細就唔記得, 但而家鄧靄琳都時常有親子講座.
或者有無mami記得? 可以講吓!
作者: traeh 時間: 09-10-28 17:19
鄧藹霖大仔從喇沙轉讀國際學校．其實除咗佢個仔讀傳統學校出問題，我記得鄧藹霖都係唔識處理壓力，例如同其他家長比較，於是成日谷個仔，影響親子關係．如有記錯，請指教．
原帖由 meipo28 於 09-10-28 17:03 發表
大至係甘 (如有錯誤,請指教)
佢囝囝原本在傳統名校就讀.成績唔係幾好,鄧靄琳於是轉做全職mum希望谷起佢成績. 但係情況無改善,佢更出手打囝,越打越重手,更影響一家人的關係.有一次鄧靄琳猛然發現佢個囝將自己畫成一 ...
作者: littlefaith 時間: 09-10-28 17:32
原帖由 traeh 於 09-10-28 17:19 發表
鄧藹霖大仔從喇沙轉讀國際學校．其實除咗佢個仔讀傳統學校出問題，我記得鄧藹霖都係唔識處理壓力，例如同其他家長比較，於是成日谷個仔，影響親子關係．如有記錯，請指教．
...
讀得名校，都好難唔會比較，一比較就有壓力，呢個係千古不變嘅事實。
所以，如果小朋友唔叻，谷唔起，就真係唔好夾硬嚟，成績差事小，影響小朋友心智發展事大。
當然，慕名而報名校者，仍大有人在。
作者: misu 時間: 09-10-28 22:52 標題: 回覆 1# littlefaith 的文章
我覺得小朋友就算谷得起，第時都會愛比較。長大後較難得到內心快樂。如果係叻嘅去邊間學校都會讀得叻。最重要小朋友董得自發及有自信。到中學根本無得谷。
作者: goodmama2003 時間: 09-10-28 23:01
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作者: GIPW 時間: 09-10-28 23:25
Parents are now hard to do and I am lost. One hand we wish they got high mark and on the other we afraid the pressure is too big. Once they are pushing themselves to get high mark, we are afraid that they will only 死讀書 , to strive for marks and ignore the joyeous of studying.
This is an never ending struggling of mine 
作者: tracytang 時間: 09-10-28 23:32
Agreed
原帖由 misu 於 09-10-28 22:52 發表
我覺得小朋友就算谷得起，第時都會愛比較。長大後較難得到內心快樂。如果係叻嘅去邊間學校都會讀得叻。最重要小朋友董得自發及有自信。到中學根本無得谷。 ...
作者: HIN2003 時間: 09-10-29 09:46
原帖由 goodmama2003 於 09-10-28 23:01 發表
其實小朋友邊個不鐘意玩, 做家長的一定要在某時候要谷下架啦, 不通給晒小朋友想點就點叫好家長? 我怕她地大左會埋怨你, 當初點解不谷下她地咋.
而家難就難在係"谷" & "良好親子關係"中攞平衡.
作者: goodmama2003 時間: 09-10-29 12:20
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作者: HIN2003 時間: 09-10-29 13:24
原帖由 goodmama2003 於 09-10-29 12:20 發表
我都覺得找平衡點真是好難, 我的準則是, 只要看到個女的心仲是愛親近自己就可以了,
例如放工, 個女見到我, 她是好開心的, 愛走過來同我傾計, 但在我叫她溫書時, 她又不開心,不彩我, 咁樣都仲可以谷下她.話下她.
...
好似我個囝咁, 剛測驗完, 鬆動D, 又話要去公園玩.去到平台公園只係得D BB, 即讀KG D 小朋友.
玩左一陣叫佢走, 我話得D BB係道玩. 小學D小朋友都係屋企要做功課. 佢都唔願走. 激死!!!
作者: goodmama2003 時間: 09-10-29 14:08
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作者: HIN2003 時間: 09-10-29 14:52
原帖由 goodmama2003 於 09-10-29 14:08 發表
是呀, 我個女又是剛測完驗, 我打算今個星期同她去海洋公園玩下.
通常玩之前又同她說: " 那, 玩完回家要做xxx, 因為星期x 要默書啦, 星期x 又要做xxx 啦咁, 怕她回家不溫書時, 我閙她都可以理直氣壯的.:funn ...
我地25/10 剛去完海洋公園.
而家D活動全是親子活動
, 跟本沒有自己的活動&時間. 每天放工就急急回家睇功課.
作者: ppsfung 時間: 09-10-29 15:53
原帖由 CFaHB 於 09-10-20 13:01 發表
滿江紅 .... or arm arm 合格多 dd
佢媽咪怪學校太深, 比分比得緊 .... (不過又有人可以攞到近滿分)
小朋友初小咋 ...
當年入到名校, 佢媽咪真係開心到顛架, 所以一定唔會轉校
我唯有叫佢再努力d啦, 個底打唔好, ...
唔使介意喎.
係名校包尾都可能已叻過一般學校的大部份人.我覺得呢個社會都係咁,出面大把勁人猛人,就算你幾叻都會有人叻過你,所以要學會接受自己的不足,亦要了解和運用自己的長處.
最緊要係父母心裡明白自己個小朋友其實唔差,唔好迫得太緊和多些鼓勵,咁個小朋友自然EQ會越來越高.
我個boss都係名校畢業,我覺得好已經好叻,但佢話我知原來佢以前經常包尾,不過佢亦因此而自細學會接受失敗,不會自視過高,所以出來社會做事反而順順利利.
作者: goodmama2003 時間: 09-10-29 16:58
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作者: easonkinki 時間: 09-10-30 05:06
聽到都覺得小朋友好可憐
作者: goodmama2003 時間: 09-10-30 07:09
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作者: aylau 時間: 09-10-30 09:52
Those studying in Band 1 schools have to prepare themselves for the never ending dictations/tests/exam. I believe kids are not necessarily extraordinary smart, but their parents should be able to provide sufficient assistant to them in term of time, patience, knowledge and finance.
Good habit is very important. I believe the habit of revision should be started when kids are in K3. Otherwise, they will take much more time at the beginning of P.1 to catch up with the class progress.
Parents should work together with kids. Switch off the TV even you really want to have some relaxation after working for whole day.
作者: HIN2003 時間: 09-10-30 12:35
原帖由 goodmama2003 於 09-10-30 07:09 發表
讀書不一定是可憐的, 成績好就是回報.
只有無父母理的孩子才是最可憐.
我都覺得一d都唔可憐, 但就非常充實.
作者: ahtan 時間: 09-10-31 23:17
原帖由 ppsfung 於 09-10-29 15:53 發表
唔使介意喎.
係名校包尾都可能已叻過一般學校的大部份人.我覺得呢個社會都係咁,出面大把勁人猛人,就算你幾叻都會有人叻過你,所以要學會接受自己的不足,亦要了解和運用自己的長處.
最緊要係父母心裡明白自己個小朋 ...
After you have graduated for many years, people won't care whether you are number one in class or last in class, they will only ask you which school did you graduate from? So if I were the parent, I won't consider changing school yet. Just try to find out the reasons for all these study problems first. If the kid really hates going to school and doesn't like his classmates, then it's another issue. But seems like this kid only hates homework and studying but not the school environment?
作者: grDaddy 時間: 09-11-1 00:09
原帖由 ahtan 於 09-10-31 23:17 發表
After you have graduated for many years, people won't care whether you are number one in class or last in class, they will only ask you which school did you graduate from? So if I were the parent, I ...
I will say that:
After you have graduated for many years, people won't care whether you are number one in class or last in class, they will only ask you which UNIVERSITY did you graduate from?
I think famous seconday school and primay school is just 錦上添花.
作者: tinkerbell2004 時間: 09-11-1 09:33
Studying is only a process to facilitate our development. All the things will change when you go to work.
Remember childhood is only very short, don't push the child too much. Give your kids more happy memories are very important.
原帖由 grDaddy 於 09-11-1 00:09 發表
I will say that:
After you have graduated for many years, people won't care whether you are number one in class or last in class, they will only ask you which UNIVERSITY did you graduate from?
I t ...
作者: ppsfung 時間: 09-11-2 12:00
原帖由 meipo28 於 09-10-28 17:03 發表
大至係甘 (如有錯誤,請指教)
佢囝囝原本在傳統名校就讀.成績唔係幾好,鄧靄琳於是轉做全職mum希望谷起佢成績. 但係情況無改善,佢更出手打囝,越打越重手,更影響一家人的關係.有一次鄧靄琳猛然發現佢個囝將自己畫成一 ...
成件事只係父母心態上有問題,與名校和細路都無關.
父母望子成龍當然正常,但過份期望往往會搞到走火入魔,將子女變成自己的"比賽功具",這種心態其對父母和小朋友都不好.
既然愛自己的仔女,便應接受他不足之處....只要小朋友盡咗力,就算成績唔好都應該為佢的勤力而驕傲.
講到底仔女的資質部分是從父母遺傳,怪罪仔女唔夠叻或怪學校,不如d大人反省一下係咪應該從另一個正面的角度去面對問題.
作者: HoHoMom 時間: 09-11-3 10:42
Totally agree ! Having a chance to 讀書 is actually a blessing. And 讀書 is the fairest game in the world. The harder you 讀書, the better the 回報.
But I do notice that some kids' strength is not 讀書. In that case, the parents should really think about whether more time should be used to develop the kids' other talents. E.g. if music is the talent, the Music School might be a better choice than a traditional famous school.
原帖由 goodmama2003 於 09-10-30 07:09 發表
讀書不一定是可憐的, 成績好就是回報.
只有無父母理的孩子才是最可憐.
作者: monkeydog 時間: 09-11-3 11:56
Job interviews wont care which primary or secondary schools you come from if you are a univeristy graduate. But good secondary schools will increase your chance to go into good universities
作者: mat媽 時間: 09-11-3 14:28
我的大學同學, 好少是名校(小/中學)出生.
出來做野, 同事都是大學畢業, 但名校(小/中學)出生的都唔多.
作者: 猴子爸 時間: 09-11-3 14:54
都要看是什么公司，一些专业，有名气的大机构，基本上初入职的大学生，很多都是名大学，名中学的毕业生。起码我自己的所见所闻是这样。
原帖由 mat媽 於 09-11-3 14:28 發表
我的大學同學, 好少是名校(小/中學)出生.
出來做野, 同事都是大學畢業, 但名校(小/中學)出生的都唔多.
作者: ysnmama 時間: 09-11-3 16:13
"名校"就是當大家學歷, 經驗, 表現等也旗鼓相當時. 它最後便很大機會用得著.
作者: 猴子爸 時間: 09-11-3 16:39
除此之外，我觉得在很多情形下，是方便拿入场券。
原帖由 ysnmama 於 09-11-3 16:13 發表
"名校"就是當大家學歷, 經驗, 表現等也旗鼓相當時. 它最後便很大機會用得著.
作者: frenchfries 時間: 09-11-4 14:59
名校既師資, 教學方法, 管理是否比普通學校好呢? 我覺得不全部是吧. 有些名校之所以能成為名校. 方法不外乎收取有經濟能力及家長願意自己谷小朋友的學生. 所以在政府派位時, 很多名校水準下降. 所以要轉直資私校. 小朋友幾歲時根本看不到誰長大後讀書會叻. 很多學業有成的人小時候都不是特別出色. 為什麼經名校挑選的學生會考成績會比人好呢. 其實這只是名校選家庭背景可支持的學生. 然後利用它的名氣, 汰弱留強. 因為只要有空出的學額, 家長們自然前仆後繼爭相為子女報讀. 名校的學生就像上了鎖鏈被同儕互相比較及學校隨時會趕跟不上的學生出校的壓力拉著向前走. 很多小學生已要讀到半夜1-2點. 我相信普通學校的學生這樣催谷也一樣會有好成績的. 所以名校只是給你一個環境去谷子女.
難怪很多名校出來的人, 都怕他們的子女走自己的路而紛紛將他們送進國際學校.
作者: Laputa 時間: 09-11-4 15:03 標題: 回覆 83# frenchfries 的文章
The following observation is so true.
難怪很多名校出來的人, 都怕他們的子女走自己的路而紛紛將他們送進國際學校.
作者: cfaye 時間: 09-11-4 23:06
呢d米係 大抽獎惡果lo，能力未夠班就好彩抽中入左名校，仔女能力又唔夠，家長support又唔夠，邊會讀得開心又學到野。
作者: november11 時間: 09-11-5 10:19
樓主朋友個小朋友, 間名校係要考入去架 bor ~~
作者: frenchfries 時間: 09-11-5 22:45
其實, 無論津貼或私立既名校我估計好多都是這樣的:
教科書可以好淺, 功課唔多, 咁就唔會有人話啲名校谷得啲學生太辛苦. 但佢地考試就好深, 考既有些根本學校就無教既. 咁家長自然就會自己谷. 因為其他家長谷, 如果唔谷就可能會唔合格, 包尾. 考得1,2年包尾既多數都唔會再留下. 名校又可以再收外來的'好學生'. 這就是名校之所以有好成績既'magic'.
作者: cfaye 時間: 09-11-12 23:37
原帖由 november11 於 09-11-5 10:19 發表
樓主朋友個小朋友, 間名校係要考入去架 bor ~~
作者: smartmatt 時間: 09-11-12 23:55
原帖由 grDaddy 於 09-11-1 00:09 發表
I will say that:
After you have graduated for many years, people won't care whether you are number one in class or last in class, they will only ask you which UNIVERSITY did you graduate from?
I t ...
After many years...interviewers want to know about what you did in your last job and how you can perform in the new job; maturity, and leadership skills/potential. University/ schools becomes a very small part of the consideration.
作者: hui3328 時間: 09-11-13 02:23 標題: 回覆 1# smartmatt 的文章
就算是名牌大學或名校MBA 畢業, 最大幫助只是畢業後第一份工而已. 之後僱主主要是考慮你在之前的職位的表現, 有什麼Achievements. 如果大家都是大學畢業, 不要因為你是名校, 而比較容易升職.
有人可能認為名校畢業比較容易成為專業人仕. 但今日香港的所謂專業人仕, 除了醫生收入算不錯外, 其他如律師, 工程師, 會計師都唔容易搵食, 除非你特別出色.
在商界, 大公司及投資銀行的確喜歡名牌大學的尖子. 比較容易取得入門機會. 但是否能做得出色, 還是要看表現.
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