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標題: 我地大家都生了個A仔, 你地有冇諗過以下問題? [打印本頁]

作者: owl_2046    時間: 09-2-4 14:24     標題: 我地大家都生了個A仔, 你地有冇諗過以下問題?

出世時是否順利?
足月嗎? 有冇崔生?
有冇懷疑焗親?
懷孕時心情如何?
作者: hellokitty1101    時間: 09-2-4 14:44     標題: 向前望

你d問題只會毫無根據地造成自責

我們應向前望.

回顧過去,係于於事無補,不如花多些精神訓練兒子吧
作者: owl_2046    時間: 09-2-4 17:28

我又冇自責喎!
因睇有關自閉症書籍時都有指出.我只係想統計一下, 等我可以知道係咪開刀生好D? 懷孕時係咪心情要好D?可以比D朋友或細妹參考下.
老實講, 可以避免的話都唔想屋企人或朋友行番呢條路, 真係少D精神及EQ都頂唔住.


原帖由 hellokitty1101 於 09-2-4 14:44 發表
你d問題只會毫無根據地造成自責

我們應向前望.

回顧過去,係于於事無補,不如花多些精神訓練兒子吧

作者: sharon26788    時間: 09-2-4 23:18

有一位認識的a仔,佢有一個孖生哥哥,但係無問題喎,咁又點解釋呢?無從印證.
作者: January    時間: 09-2-6 00:13

我自己足月順產, 懷孕時好開心, 餵人奶至八個月, 一切好順利.
想做下統計都冇壞既, 不過呢d統計相信大把人做左. 可以上網搵到下數據都吾定. 再者吾係想潑冷水, 如果真係有跡可尋既話, 一早就有方法預防啦.  
原帖由 sharon26788 於 09-2-4 23:18 發表
有一位認識的a仔,佢有一個孖生哥哥,但係無問題喎,咁又點解釋呢?無從印證.

[ 本帖最後由 January 於 09-2-6 00:18 編輯 ]
作者: HEIPAN    時間: 09-2-6 09:22

生出嫁,我細仔一出世就同其他bb不太一樣
我2個仔都是順產,大的就沒這樣的問題
作者: owl_2046    時間: 09-2-6 15:46

即係大家都認為係整定啦
作者: owl_2046    時間: 09-2-6 15:50

點會唔自責???
點解人地生咁多都冇事, 自己生一個就出事?
唔諗唔諗都要諗, 有時又會再沉淪谷底


原帖由 hellokitty1101 於 09-2-4 14:44 發表
你d問題只會毫無根據地造成自責

我們應向前望.

回顧過去,係于於事無補,不如花多些精神訓練兒子吧

作者: fjbaby    時間: 09-2-7 00:28

我係足月順產時開到十度都生唔到, 最後要由另一位經驗好d既醫生到場cofirm因bb個頭ong起左, 要緊急開刀生, bb出生時只有5磅多d, 因吸入胎糞要入icu, 跟住肚脹腸發炎,前後住12日醫院. 另外我懷孕時因與我媽媽關係惡劣, 心情很差, 經常不開心, 我都覺得兩件事唔多唔少對阿囝係有影響.

不過諗還諗, 個仔係自己既, 無得選擇, 點都要盡最大能力train up佢.

[ 本帖最後由 fjbaby 於 09-2-7 00:41 編輯 ]
作者: patpat234    時間: 09-2-7 01:56

從來都冇諗過呢d野....
曾經聽過講坐,小朋友有問題唔一定有原因.
而且大多數都係不明原因
作者: owl_2046    時間: 09-2-7 10:06

我都係, 亞仔因到期都未肯出世, 所以要吊針崔生....
我雖然都係開到10度生, 但因唔識用力, 要另一位助產士幫我推肚, 前後約1個小時, 冇用什何器具幫.
之後亞仔左手有D震及黃旦"責界"入左箱照燈, 醫生初時用超聲波照亞仔個腦話有2點白點可能出世時焗親, 要做腦掃瞄再confirm....
但做腦掃瞄後又話冇事.......前後係醫院住左5日....
都唔知係咪做腦掃瞄時掃壞腦
所以我都有怪自己點解當初唔上下D產前班學下點用力生,
或者點解唔聽我姑奶講開刀生.
不過點都係果句, 自己個仔就算點都要盡力教好佢, 只要佢
一日比一日進步就心足啦.


原帖由 fjbaby 於 09-2-7 00:28 發表
我係足月順產時開到十度都生唔到, 最後要由另一位經驗好d既醫生到場cofirm因bb個頭ong起左, 要緊急開刀生, bb出生時只有5磅多d, 因吸入胎糞要入icu, 跟住肚脹腸發炎,前後住12日醫院. 另外我懷孕時因與我媽媽關係惡劣 ...

[ 本帖最後由 owl_2046 於 09-2-7 10:08 編輯 ]
作者: fjbaby    時間: 09-2-8 09:19

咁你唔需要自責既, 就算上左D產前班, 都未必一定運用到. 例如bb出生時個位歪左d, bb太大.....有d嘢係預料之外.


原帖由 owl_2046 於 09-2-7 10:06 發表
我都係, 亞仔因到期都未肯出世, 所以要吊針崔生....
我雖然都係開到10度生, 但因唔識用力, ..............都唔知係咪做腦掃瞄時掃壞腦
所以我都有怪自己點解當初唔上下D產前班學下點用力生,
或者點解唔聽我姑奶講開刀生.

作者: HEIPAN    時間: 09-2-10 09:48

各位很用心盡力的媽媽,
著實真的不要自責,我細仔由我入院到生咗佢出黎前後只有一個小時,結果他都是有自閉,現在還評了有學障:p
我懷著他的時候都同一些親戚發生過很激烈的爭吵,我都曾經自責過,不過那又如何呢,要發生的還是會發生的~~
孩子與我們的緣份很深,再辛苦都不應放棄和自怨自艾的
加油啊
作者: annaanna    時間: 09-2-10 16:41

其實由發現阿仔有問題到依家,我都暗暗自責,係咪當時醫生問想唔想催生,而作出一個錯誤o既決定呢?因為當時入到醫院,冇見紅,冇穿水,只有陣痛... 係咪阿仔未準備出黎,我迫佢出黎而令到依家大家都辛苦呢?

唉... 不過就算當年做錯決定,依家後悔都冇用喇....
作者: owl_2046    時間: 09-2-11 10:10

提起吵架, 我有左亞仔5個月時, 同我最錫既細佬吵了場勁交, 我重非常激動 (而家當然和好啦)
另外再加上我養左7年既鸚鵡C左, 我又傷心左一排.
我相信唔多唔少有影響.

原帖由 HEIPAN 於 09-2-10 09:48 發表
各位很用心盡力的媽媽,
著實真的不要自責,我細仔由我入院到生咗佢出黎前後只有一個小時,結果他都是有自閉,現在還評了有學障:p
我懷著他的時候都同一些親戚發生過很激烈的爭吵,我都曾經自責過,不過那又如何呢,要發生 ...

作者: bridge    時間: 09-2-21 13:21

我想,這不是在生產過程及懷孕時情緒的問題.....是一些到現在都解釋不到的原因。但各位媽媽,這條路雖然難行一點,但不要太自責,也有很多的同路人一起走!!!有時候,你望望小朋友的笑容,聽聽他對你說一聲"媽媽",那種滿足真的可以使你更有勇氣面對前路!!!不要自責,你還要堅強一點,你要成為小朋友的導航者,你能以笑容和括達的的心情迎接前路,小朋友也會跟你一樣,有信心地面對自己的不足,有信心地學習!!!
作者: NadiaR    時間: 09-2-21 23:01

Hi All,

I also keep thinking why my son has autism. I remebered I spent 45 mins to born my son naturally. The nurses said I really took too long time. Also, my mood was not good during the 10 months as I feel bad to get pregnant after starting my new job. I always worried how to tell my new boss that I get pregnant as I said I have no plan to get pregnant so fast in job interview. Moreover, I think my son is like me. I am a highly sensitive person (HSP). Please see the test to find out what is HSP. My hubby is also a HSP.
I think if one of you or hubby is a HSP, maybe get more possibilty to have a autism babe.
http://balas.typepad.com/balas/2007/06/post-6.html
Finally, many autism babe like English. Is there any relation to parents edu. level. The more knowledgble, the more possibilities to have autism babe ? One book said most autism babe were from "have $ families" with gd edu. level in the old days.
Sometimes. I told myself have to be +ve, more open to ppl and keep a happy mind so as to set up a gd model for my son. So I only think the gd sides about him, try to understand his shortomings and help him to get know how to interat with others. Add oil, dear all !!!
作者: joyjoyma    時間: 09-2-23 09:34

NadiaR,

謝謝你post出來的link,我做完問卷,result是HSP,而那篇文章,100%跟我個仔的表現一致,touch wood他最後不算是自閉,但自小就有很多autistic的features,感覺只是一線之差. 我現在懷有第二胎,由於大囝有這個背景,我又是高齡,我總覺得這胎有這個可能一點不奇...,所以入來看看大家的分享,很有幫助. 謝謝!
原帖由 NadiaR 於 09-2-21 23:01 發表
Hi All,

I also keep thinking why my son has autism. I remebered I spent 45 mins to born my son naturally. The nurses said I really took too long time. Also, my mood was not good during the 10 months  ...

作者: P-boy    時間: 09-2-24 22:56

Doctor said my boy was a margin case.  He has some auteric features.  Look back, my pregnancy was a great burden.  I had placeta separation when he was 12 weeks old and then again when he's 13 weeks. I nearly miscarraged.  Luckily, God heard my prayer.  When he's 23 weeks, doctor said something's wrong with his fingers.  He checked up thoroughly.  He couldn't ascertain whether there was anything wrong with the brain unless we took those invasive testing.  We only had a few days to make a decision - abortion or not.

Finally I decided not have any test and keep the baby. At first, I thought only his fingers had problems.  Now he's a little bit slow in speech and social skills.  Sometimes, I thought maybe I should not bring him to this world.  But once I had this thinking, I would remind myself it's me who made the decision and no matter what it is not his fault for being sick.  I think every kid is just like an assignment from God.  Someone's assignment maybe easier but someones aren't, especially for those who have greater capabilities.
作者: owl_2046    時間: 09-2-25 15:38

唔好諗咁多啦, 安胎最緊要.

原帖由 joyjoyma 於 09-2-23 09:34 發表
NadiaR,

謝謝你post出來的link,我做完問卷,result是HSP,而那篇文章,100%跟我個仔的表現一致,touch wood他最後不算是自閉,但自小就有很多autistic的features,感覺只是一線之差. 我現在懷有第二胎,由於大囝有這個背景 ...

作者: jasper888    時間: 09-2-28 23:38

Dear Nardiamama,

Is that your son in the photo? He is really handsome!

  


原帖由 NadiaR 於 09-2-21 23:01 發表
Hi All,

I also keep thinking why my son has autism. I remebered I spent 45 mins to born my son naturally. The nurses said I really took too long time. Also, my mood was not good during the 10 months  ...

作者: NadiaR    時間: 09-3-1 11:00

Hi Jasper888,

Haha, glad to hear you saying he looks handsome !
My son is a mixed blood babe. so his outlook seems a bit different from others.
He will be 2 yrs old very soon but he looks like a 3-4 yrs old boy. My maid sometimes tease him as " old B".:


原帖由 jasper888 於 09-2-28 11:38 PM 發表
Dear Nardiamama,

Is that your son in the photo? He is really handsome!

  



作者: jasper888    時間: 09-3-1 21:55

He definitely looked older than his age.

Just nearly 2 years old, so there is still a lot of time for him to get better. Work hard!

When my son was 2 years old, he was really thin because he was very picky eater. Now that he is 8 years old, he needs to see a dietitian to see how he can lose weight!  



原帖由 NadiaR 於 09-3-1 11:00 發表
Hi Jasper888,

Haha, glad to hear you saying he looks handsome !
My son is a mixed blood babe. so his outlook seems a bit different from others.
He will be 2 yrs old very soon but he looks like a 3-4 ...

作者: singwin    時間: 09-3-2 10:09

原帖由 owl_2046 於 09-2-4 17:28 發表
我又冇自責喎!
因睇有關自閉症書籍時都有指出.我只係想統計一下, 等我可以知道係咪開刀生好D? 懷孕時係咪心情要好D?可以比D朋友或細妹參考下.
老實講, 可以避免的話都唔想屋企人或朋友行番呢條路, 真係少D精神及EQ ...


From this article, it says pregnant women who eat  fish and sea food will in-take mercury which is one of the cause.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-conte/advocacy-for-autism-answe_b_113321.html
作者: joyjoyma    時間: 09-3-3 09:25

原帖由 singwin 於 09-3-2 10:09 發表


From this article, it says pregnant women who eat  fish and sea food will in-take mercury which is one of the cause.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-conte/advocacy-for-autism-answe_b_113321.html ...

Thanks for sharing!

I eat fish every day this week. Though it's only a small amount, I think I should reduce the intake till the due day.
作者: NadiaR    時間: 09-3-3 09:49

I think u'd better to reduce the intake. I remeber my mom let me drink fish (river fish) soup everyday as I hate eating fish during pregnancy. I dont know whether there is any relationship.
原帖由 joyjoyma 於 09-3-3 09:25 AM 發表

Thanks for sharing!

I eat fish every day this week. Though it's only a small amount, I think I should reduce the intake till the due day.

作者: joyjoyma    時間: 09-3-4 09:04

原帖由 NadiaR 於 09-3-3 09:49 發表
I think u'd better to reduce the intake. I remeber my mom let me drink fish (river fish) soup everyday as I hate eating fish during pregnancy. I dont know whether there is any relationship.  


弊!篇文章話tuna有很多水銀. 我初懷孕時食唔到野,日日食個吞拿魚飽.
加上最初2 months無留意,用開的面霜有美白成份...唔知關唔關事??
唔知點才可以解解d水銀毒素.
作者: huiaudrey    時間: 09-3-31 09:45

我係生唔出,穿左水,一度都無開,再吊催生,痛左13個鐘,最後都係開刀,係全身痳醉.
成個懷孕過程我都好開心.不過工作壓力就比較大。
我有左個仔到生,都食好多魚,有好多人話係個胎中左水銀毒。
作者: owl_2046    時間: 09-4-1 15:43

我由細到大至懷孕都唔鍾意食魚, 只係有左2個月時食過一之日本餐, 食左幾片三文魚......之後見到都想嘔.
我諗唔關魚事掛.

原帖由 huiaudrey 於 09-3-31 09:45 發表
我係生唔出,穿左水,一度都無開,再吊催生,痛左13個鐘,最後都係開刀,係全身痳醉.
成個懷孕過程我都好開心.不過工作壓力就比較大。
我有左個仔到生,都食好多魚,有好多人話係個胎中左水銀毒。 ...

作者: kimbear    時間: 09-4-6 13:34

會唔會因為打了某些針? BB or 媽媽
作者: owl_2046    時間: 09-4-7 16:24

唉, 聽講話好多預防疫苗都含大量水銀.
我都唔敢比亞仔打流感針啦, 費事加深症狀啦.
由其果支3合1 (咩德國麻疹,百日咳,白喉) 含50%水銀.
但個個BB6個月都有打,點解又要係我地囝囡先中招

原帖由 kimbear 於 09-4-6 13:34 發表
會唔會因為打了某些針? BB or 媽媽

作者: hystericland    時間: 09-4-7 16:53

原帖由 owl_2046 於 09-4-7 16:24 發表
唉, 聽講話好多預防疫苗都含大量水銀.
我都唔敢比亞仔打流感針啦, 費事加深症狀啦.
由其果支3合1 (咩德國麻疹,百日咳,白喉) 含50%水銀.
但個個BB6個月都有打,點解又要係我地囝囡先中招

...


其實只有預防疫苗中的防腐劑(Thimerosal),內含50%水銀,所以份量不是太多。
作者: chulokto    時間: 09-7-9 18:31

我聽我醫生講,如果出世個幾日黃但無照燈又或者照遲左就會影響佢腦內一個地方(我唔記得左叫乜),就會令到佢地有自閉。

我仔仔就係照遲左2日燈,所以........
作者: owl_2046    時間: 09-7-10 10:16

我個仔一出世"黃坦責界" 第二日先照燈....
而家變"自閉責界"
真係超級擔心...第時佢唔知會點, 我又得佢一粒仔....唉!!!

原帖由 chulokto 於 09-7-9 18:31 發表
我聽我醫生講,如果出世個幾日黃但無照燈又或者照遲左就會影響佢腦內一個地方(我唔記得左叫乜),就會令到佢地有自閉。

我仔仔就係照遲左2日燈,所以........ ...

作者: annaanna    時間: 09-7-10 10:29

我睇左顧博士o既書,佢都話疫苗有水銀成份,對大人份量可能係少,不過對一個bb 黎講,相對就會好大影響喇﹗

原帖由 hystericland 於 09-4-7 16:53 發表


其實只有預防疫苗中的防腐劑(Thimerosal),內含50%水銀,所以份量不是太多。

作者: asap2122    時間: 09-7-10 11:29     標題: 自閉症兒童訓練中心

請問新界有沒有自閉症訓練中心,我住元朗,亞B現時要去旺角上課,如果返小組,每天花3個小時來回。
作者: ahjoechan    時間: 09-7-10 12:10

我個仔一出世都係"黃坦責界", 但無得照燈,,日日拮針驗血,黃足一個月, 後來我停 Breastfeed 至好....但他現在都好黑....我都懷疑黃坦上腦導致自閉症..
作者: angtao    時間: 09-7-13 15:45     標題: Omega 3-6-9

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作者: lky    時間: 09-7-23 16:55

owl_2046:妳好!A仔又好、B仔又好,始終都係妳仔。盡人事去幫他,做得幾多就幾多,唔好浪費他的時間。我的已八歲了,讀主流三年級,我以前識得的A仔、A女全都進步了很多,多些同他玩、談話、去街、去飲飲食食,令他要有「新鮮感」,大些又會好些,當然永遠都比不上正常的小朋友,所以無謂比較,更無謂自責。我想全世界的媽咪生的小孩正常與否都有自責的,所以都是一般媽咪心態,但我們的小孩情緒欠佳、表達能力弱,就要花多些時間及心機,千祈唔好因為一份評估報告而放棄孩子,應盡人事去幫他成長,對得天地良心住。努力吧!別忘記,還有我們這一群與妳一起努力的A仔媽咪。
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作者: owl_2046    時間: 09-7-24 10:00

我都明白......
盡力而為.....

原帖由 lky 於 09-7-23 16:55 發表
owl_2046:妳好!A仔又好、B仔又好,始終都係妳仔。盡人事去幫他,做得幾多就幾多,唔好浪費他的時間。我的已八歲了,讀主流三年級,我以前識得的A仔、A女全都進步了很多,多些同他玩、談話、去街、去飲飲食食,令他要有「新鮮感」,大 ...

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